Gwen Stefani is a mere month younger than me. She is hardly an example of your average 43-year-old woman. When she isn't making me feel bad with her perfect skin, hair, body and clothing, she can be inspiring, in a "I can still get away with rocker chick looks" kind of way.
But pregnant at 43? No thanks. It has been announced (but not by Gwen) that she is pregnant with her third child. A sibling for seven-year-old Kingston and five-year-old Zuma.
As my kids get older, I do sometimes wish for the loving wet kisses of a baby, or the hand-grasps of a toddler, or even the cute dances of a preschooler. But I'm not sure that I could or would do it again. I'm tired.
I have friends who had their firsts at 40 and seconds later on. I know someone who had a baby at 45 without an issue. And good for them.
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There are risks with pregnancy in your 40s though. As the mother ages, there is an increased chance of genetic abnormalities and Down's Syndrome, and there have been studies that linked the father's genetic age to issues as well. There are also increased risks of miscarriage, gestational diabetes and pre-eclampsia.
Gwen, like Halle Berry and other 40-year-olds getting pregnant, is not immune to the dangers of having "old eggs". But they've decided that the benefits outweigh the risks. There are benefits to having a baby later in life. You are more financially secure, and (presumably) more in control of your life.
The reasons is to have another baby are deeply personal. Stefani has said that they tried to have another child in 2010, but it didn't work out.
Want more chaos? I want my kids to fail, I really, really do.