Emma Waverman writes about the chaos of modern family life in the kitchen and out of it. She has a weekly food column on CBC Radio One, Here & Now. She is the co-author of the family cookbook Whining and Dining: Mealtime Survival for Picky Eaters and Families Who Love Them and is hoping to one day finish her certification as a parenting coach. She lives with her three kids, ranging from tween to university student, and husband in Toronto. Emma has written for a variety of national lifestyle magazines and newspapers. When she's is not making typos, telling you what she thinks, and thinking about dinner, you can find her on Twitter at @emmawaverman and Instagram. You can contact Emma at embracingchaos@hotmail.ca.

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Aug102011

The 12 Least Useful Baby Gear Items (According To Me)

As soon as you see those pink lines appear, your brain turns to the important business of what to buy for baby. Thankfully, there are a lot of lists out there that will help you, confuse you, tell you conflicting information and cost you lots of money.


But no worries - just choose which magazine or store or friend you want to trust and then go with your instincts. No matter how much research you do, you will end up with things you don't need; things you don't like; things buried in the back of the closet; things that you still have to buy.


 



I think as long as you have some blankets, a really good carrier, some clothes, at least one good stroller and a lot of diapers you can make it through.


I would also throw in a bouncy chair and the excersaucer (though others disagree). There are some baby-calming and holding apparatuses that can save your sanity. But if your baby doesn't like the sling/Jolly Jumper/bouncy chair/exersaucer then you are out a pile of cash as well as prime living room real estate. But if they do? Yey - you can shower and make scrambled eggs with two arms.


So I put the question out on Twitter, what were the least useful baby gear? And I got flooded with answers, and the ones I agree with I listed here:


Bassinet: none of my three babies slept in a bassinet, if they were sleeping they were on me. It was just a fancy baby toybox.


Wipes Warmer: oh, please.


Bottle Warmer: A doula told me to get my baby used to room temperature of cold milk, that way it can come straight from the fridge which is what we did. Never add a step to the feeding arrangement. There is no medical reason to give warm milk so just go with what is the most convenient.


Receiving Blankets: Too many just fill up your linen closets and make you feel guilty. Though PhDinParenting said they make good rags.


Cribs: We used the crib starting at about 6 months (and mostly for naps) many people used theirs as a clothes hamper.


Excessive Bed Linen: Two fitted sheets for the crib are enough.


Change Table: We never used ours and tossed it after the first two weeks. We used the bed and the floor mostly. Erica Ehm at Yummy Mummy Club loved hers though.


Baby Bath: Our kitchen sink was way more convenient, less messy and at the perfect height.


Baby Socks: Loathed by mothers everywhere. Especially when the old lady on the street stops you and tells you that your baby is wearing only one sock and give you the disapproving look.


Adult-styled clothes for a baby: Babies are so squishy that mini adult clothes just don't fit right and are a waste of money.


Umbrella for the stroller: I think mine is still in the garage in plastic.


Video Monitors: You can buy these if you want to sit and obsess over every movement - or worse - no movement.


What do you think is the most useless baby gear? What do you have in your house that is still brand new but never used?


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Reader Comments (109)

Bassinet: never used one and I never saw the point of having these??

Wipes Warmer:I totally agree with you, oh please!! are they kidding, who uses this??

Bottle Warmer: Yep, dont bother. both my kids were fine drinking milk straight from the fridge, I only warmed it up for them (in the microwave-gasp!!) before bed or naps.

Receiving Blankets: We did have these, but mostly as gifts. My second child had brand new ones from my first child!!

Cribs: I think this is needed, for sure! Especially if you dont plan on co-sleeping and it's good for naps.

Excessive Bed Linen: Agree, my second had brand new stuff that my first child never used.

Change Table: Everyone I spoke to said these were useless so I never bothered.

Baby Bath: We did get this for my kids but only used them for a short time. They were a pain and I found it so much easier to just use the big bath with very little water.

Baby Socks: I never had to buy these because my kids lived in their sleepers for the first 6 months or so.

Adult-styled clothes for a baby: I've never even heard of this??

Umbrella for the stroller: Nope.

Video Monitors: Holy cow, video monitors?? seriously?? NO WAY!! I bought a baby monitor at a garage sale for $2 bucks but only used it for my second child.

I have to add - TOYS!! For the love of God, my kids had (and have!!) so many toys that I dont think they even play with half of them, how can they?? It's all everyone ever gets them though and even when they were babies, people gave us rattles and such that they could care less about. They had so much more fun with plain household stuff.
August 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLisa
It's funny. My 30 receiving blankets were barely enough with my first. My second and third children don't use any. Those little burp cloths are just fine. But my first was a fountain of spit up (needing much more coverage than a burp cloth) and I'd be doing laundry daily with anything less than 30 or so. He also had diaper blowouts and spit up in bed all time time (gassy little thing) so 2 crib sheets are laughable. I had 4 and still ran out in the middle of the night at least once.

With my third, I have a bassinet for the first time. It's handy. I agree unnecessary, but I think it's nice to have something that goes right next to the bed so you can shove the soother back in and jiggle it without moving 90% of your body. I save bedsharing for the second half of the night, so I can spend a few hours of having my body to myself and not being spooned by a baby who loooooves being as close as can be. I agree with most of your others, especially change tables. I'm baffled that a piece of furniture just to change diapers on is now a parenting must-have.

I will add to the list:

Diaper Pails - what's wrong with a regular garbage can with a lid? Those plastic poopy diaper sausages are so unnecessary. We've never had smell issues.

Bumbo chairs - for those brief weeks it'll be handy, skip storing it.

Baby shoes - I was given about 6 pairs of shoes in sizes around 0-6 months. Like socks, babies don't need shoes.

Baby soaps & shampoos - a regular, gentle soap (like Ivory) and you're good to go. Especially since baby products are often more toxic than adults' (check out Environmental Working Group's website). My kids use my shampoo as soon as I stop washing their hair with their plain, unscented soap.

Baby detergents - it's called unscented detergent. There's nothing special about it.
August 10, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKate
I agree with most, but used my bassinett for both kids and loved it. And the crib was necessary. Are there that many co-sleeping parents out there? I slept so little as it was, I could not imagine having to worry about squishing my child. I needed that time away...still do. I have to confess I had a bottle warmer and it was soooo slow I stopped using it and my 2nd child drank room temprature formula and cold milk.The most useless baby item I have ever purchased was any toy that was labeled 0+ to 12+. My children looked at them and even touched them, but never, ever played with them the way they were intended, until they were well into their 2yr. They are more content with remotes, cell phones, and anything that is NOT a toy. Oh and I hate socks...they drive me insane.
August 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterErin
I challenge anyone to wipe themselves with cold wet wipes. Let me know how that feels for you. Same goes for warm food. Yeah, it's not "medically necessary" to heat any of our food, but it sure is comforting. Next time you reach for the microwave to heat up your soup, think about eating it cold. Yum.
August 11, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterwhatever
I have to admit that other people said the diaper pail was useless, but my husband (who is super freaky clean) loved the poop sausage maker! Made him feel that everything was clean and tidy.And I have to agree with you on the baby detergent! Good one.

August 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterEmma Waverman
I would also argue that a stroller isn't necessary until the baby is too heavy to carry all the time. For some parents that may mean that they can skip the super expensive, super bulky stroller stage altogether and just go with an umbrella stroller or sturdier version thereof.

We did need a good newborn stoller for our son because we both played ultimate frisbee on the same team and needed somewhere safe for him to lie/sleep while we were on the field. Teammates watched him, but we didn't want to tell them that they had to hold him the whole time (and didn't want their sweat dripping all over him!).

With our daughter, we didn't need a stroller at all until she was a toddler and even then we rarely used it.
August 14, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAnnie @ PhD in Parenting
Wow how the heck is a crib un-nesscery??? Where do they sleep for the first 2 years then????
August 14, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterchantel
Are you kidding me a stroller was definatly necessary. Especially after baby number 2 arrived. I would like to see Annie from PhD in Parenting hold a baby and a 2 year old and there stuff on a trip to the park. And cribs are really good to have too. I bought mine for around $200. It was a convertable that went from crib, to toddler bed to single bed. My 9 year old still sleeps in it and all I had to do was buy new a new mattress when it went from toddler to single. Though I had no use for my change table it also does double duty and converted to a 5 drawer dresser and as a dresser its fantastic.
August 14, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJackie
Crib Mobiles were completely useless to me. I had two, one for each of the cribs. We took them down after about 2 weeks. It was dark in their room and they just got in my way. And when they woke up we got them up.

I agree with some of the things on your list. I have to say that cribs were necessary for us. My twin boys started sleeping in their crib the first night home from the hospital. For the first month they both slept in the same crib, which was great because if they soiled one bed in the middle of the night we just moved them to the other one. At about a month one of the boys had surgery and separated them. Plus they were getting big.
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterGinger
We couldn't have survived without our bassinet! But we didn't actually have a room for the baby, either one, for the first 6 months. So we needed that bassinet.

And a diaper pail or some form of shut-tight garbage pail is necessary if you've got dogs. Trust me, I learned that the hard way!

What I did find was unnecessary is actually the nursery itself. We found this out through experience and because we had no choice. But you won't actually spend that much time in the room until the kid can play. Unless you sleep on the floor next to the crib! If I'd had to nurse in a lonely room in the middle of the night I would have gone blinky! But getting a room sorted when she was 9 months old, suddenly it becomes about a place to play/read/grow.

Stuffed animals! I swear I was going to chuck them back in the face of the giver if I got another one.
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCheryl Arkison
Thats what I'd like to know.. Floor maybe cause everywhere else they would fall off!!
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLisa Loewen
90% of our gifts have been stuffies! Why oh why so many stuffies? Until the baby is... I don't know how old but it'll be a while, they just sit there collecting dust so I have actually been repurposing some to charities etc. And thank you mom for saving both yours and mine and my brother's stuffies for our baby, I totally have storage space for all of them in our tiny place ha! Not to sound ungrateful but I think I have found at least a pseudo use for the few other items we have received. We have one little monkey that we bought the day we filled out the first of our adoption paperwork that is special and we are sentimental about but the rest, yikes, I just don't know what to do with!
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered Commentermeghan
I hated the hooded baby towels! Yeah they were nice and soft for my newborns skin, but since my daughter was a giant, it didn't cover her after her 1st month, so we just bought her some super soft beach towels and they do a much better job. Also, the fancy tummy time contraptions weren't worth it. My daughter hated it! What's wrong with using a blanket on the floor?
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJamie
I have to say this made me laugh. Cold soup? Room temp food? Welcome to motherhood. I get to eat a luke-warm meal once, maybe twice a month. Should only last another 8-10 years! And I have used a cold wipe at an outhouse for myself, not that bad really.
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterStacey
I am in total agreement, how can a crib be not needed. Babies should not be sleeping with the parents all the time. they can be rolled over onto, smoothered and how do parents get any alone time with a baby in the bed. A crib is also a safe place for naps and some play time.I think anyone who would write an article and put the most important item of furniture as a not needed item, needs to have their head examined.
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCakeMom
Disagree about a few of these , first the bassinet, my daugher in law is using one right now. I purchased one today for another little friend who is expecting any day, I have another little friend who used one for her son and Im sure will be for her 3rd child? Receiving blankets, little one like to be swathed like in the womb, they are good to lay them on the lawn or floor or covering up when your nursing. Cribs, my grandaughter slept in 1 which is now her bed, my 3rd grandaughter has one also that will see her into adulthood.

August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCharlotte Alexander
Bassinet: I didn't have a bassinet for the first. The second wouldn't have anything to do with it and the third wasn't a fan, either. My fourth gets a lot of use out of it, though, now that I've put it in the family room so I can have somewhere to put him down away from his sisters.

Wipes Warmer: I'm lucky if I know where the wipes are, let alone what temperature they're at.

Bottle Warmer: I really think they ought to use those things to warm the gel when you have an ultrasound.

Receiving Blankets: Maybe it's regional thing, but I never see burp cloths around here. Everyone uses receiving blankets. Not me, though. I just get spitup on my shirts because I'm classy.

Cribs: I don't think I've had a baby in their own crib before they were a good 9 months old.

Excessive Bed Linen: It's handy for when your older baby comes down with some sort of exotic puke-flu, but that's about it.

Change Table: That's what the couch is for, isn't it?

Baby Bath: I've used one for some kids, not for others. It's a real take-it-or-leave-it item for me. Not quite useless, but hardly essential.

Baby Socks: I have the most shameful addiction to itsy-bitsy newborn socks. But that's just my insanity talking. They're definitely not necessary.

Adult-styled clothes for a baby: I'll admit I'm a sucker for this, too. Especially when you put a newborn in a pair of pants for the first time and they come up to the armpits. It's too amusing for me to refrain.

Umbrella for the stroller: Do people actually buy those?

Video Monitors: I really don't see the point. The first few months they live on Planet Mom anyway.
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterBrood Mare
Your comment on the baby socks just made me laugh, it does always seem that it is the grumpy old ladies that find the sock and point out that your child is only wearing one. I would also agree with the change table, although we do use a change mat on a regular dresser right now, that is all you need. Toys are pretty much a waste of money babies would rather play with you than anything that has bells and whistles. Neither of my daughters use the bassenet either although it does look cute sitting next to my bed. Our number one useless baby item would be a swimming suit we got as a gift for our newborn. By the time she was old enough to go swimming she had already grown out of it......although it is pretty darn cute, we just gave it to our older daughters doll to wear. Babies these days "require" so much stuff it makes me wonder how our grandparents raised children without it.
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterkim oliver
No socks, really??? My feet get cold and I'm sure the babies feet get cold too... And, no crib??? come on, the little one should have their own safe place to sleep...
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered Commentersuemp61@hotmail.com
One of my aunt's boys never used his crib at all. He had acid reflux so he slept in his carrier so that he would be sitting up a little bit in order to ease his stomache. The rest of her kids (five in total) would sleep in the bassinet whenever I was baby sitting (or their own big kid bed when they were old enough) just so I wouldn't have to move very much to gently rock them to sleep in the crib or put a sookie back in their mouth. I don't think I know of anyone who used a change table to change a baby. Storage, yes. Definitely kept diapers/wipes/etc there, but never actually changed a baby on it.
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered Commenteramy
I love my bassinet, has wheels and two baskets - perfect for middle of the night diaper changes, clothes changes etc. I used to put it near my bed and have one hand on my daughter because God knows how we worry about SIDS , grant it probably didnt make a difference but it was my comfort. Also used to roll it around with me ie: living room - kitchen while cooking etc. A God save for me. When she was to heavy for it and started wanting to flip I moved her to the crib Around 2 months old,

Co sleeping is a beautifull thing but BUT BUT BUT I cherished my bed time. I now use co sleeping only as a treat when I want an extra 30 min of sleep in the morning (she is now 2). Expecting #2 and already pulled out my bassinet :P
August 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTania
LOL - I thought the same thing, especially since the bassinet is also apparently useless!
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAnge
WOW! Amazedd at some of the comments! My baby could'nt tolerate cold milk...God forbid I get up at night and warm it! I have many children and because I CHOSE to have them, I chose to get up at all hours and warm their milk.

Bedding, I had many fitted sheets, and used them all! I was exhausted and didn't always have then energy to wash them every day, so I thought they were great!

Video monitor....don't laugh. Many moms have used them, myself included, and can't be as relaxed as those other perfect moms who don't need them.

So, don't laugh at or judge other moms.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenteranndoylewhite@hotmail.com
I guess the crib is a personal choice/issue. I have 4 kids going on my fifth and had a crib for my first son yet never used it except for literally half a night. I heard his gasping for air in it and never put him back in. Kept him right beside me to keep an eye on him. I used a bassinet with the other 3 until about 9 months (I tend to have very small babies so they fit well in the bassinets for longer periods). My sister never used the bassinet I got her, but uses the crib. Every thing else on this list I agree with except for the bath. I used my diaper genie for one refill then gave it away. The first month to 6 weeks my kids were bathed in the washroom sink, but then went to the baby bath which I used for well over 1 year, but it was irritating having it just some where in the washroom at all times. I never used a changing table, but my sister only used hers. I guess bottom line is...to each his/her own.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMarissa
I believe they meant the crib was not needed for the first 6 months....
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commentersandiembrown@hotmail.com
LOL. Makes me laugh when I read that women are scared of rolling on top of their babies when co-sleeping. Trust me, you won't! I co-splept with all 3 of my children and the extra sleep I got was a god-send. Especially with my second who nursed every 1.5 to 2 hours.

I agree with almost everything listed here. Except receiving blankets. They are hit and miss. If you have a spitter then you will need LOTS.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCSAngel
A crib is indeed important IF you're committed to using it. If not, it's a waste. We bought an expensive crib before the baby was born, assuming we'd use it regularly, and never used it once, because it turned out that co-sleeping was better for us. If you're on the fence like we were, I suggest saving your money until you're saying "I wish we'd bought a crib". If that day never comes, you'll have saved a lot of money.

Oh, and a change table totally saved my back with our second baby. We used the bed for baby #1; I'm tall, and my back was killing me.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterGil
I have to respectfully disagree with you, ladies, and I'm going to explain why. As a biological anthropologist, I know there is ample evidence to support co-sleeping, and in the 172 other societies out there that co-sleep the rate of SIDS is actually lower than in countries where women put their children in cribs. For one thing, perhaps you aren't aware that women can actually detect a change in a baby's breathing patterns much sooner with co-sleeping (that's 1.5/1000 SIDS cases in the US vs. 0.4/1000 in Hong Kong with co-sleeping) than without. The vast majority of infants in this world (and during our ample evolutionary past) get by just fine without cribs (hard to believe, I know). In fact, co-sleeping and a mother's CO2 encourages regular infant breathing, reduces cortisol levels and increases an infant's body temperature, not to mention the fact that infants can nurse on-demand throughout the night without all the fuss of a woman having to get up and trudge down the hall to baby's nursery. As a result, infants that co-sleep feed 39% more during the night and gain weight quicker than their crib-sleeping counterparts. Women that aren't on drugs or are smokers (or under the influence of alcohol) just don't smother or 'overlay' their infants. I mean, to assert that a woman who doesn't use this particular piece of furniture 'needs to have their head examined' is hurtful to so many other cultural groups, more than a little misinformed, and suggests that our ancestors have been getting it wrong for the past 6 million years.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMs.Hominini
Warm milk is comforting only to a baby that is used to getting warm breastmilk straight from the breast. If you're bottle feeding from the start, then baby won't know that they could've had warm milk, and will be used to whatever you offer. So keep it easy...make powdered formula with room temperature water (but watch out for melamine and BPA).As for the wipes....try baby washcloths and warm water (keep it in a thermos). Their skin does not need vit. E, aloe, perfume, lotion, etc to get it clean! Anyone ever think about the fact diaper companies sell smelly diapers....and then diaper cream to fix the rash caused by the diaper...and then wipes to get "really clean"....and then powder to "dry"....it's all marketing!!
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTracyKM
It's SO easy to take an infant and a 2 year old AND a 5 year old to the park without a stroller! Ever seen an African mother working in a field with her baby on her back? It's called babywearing. ALL babies like to be worn, you just have to find the right position and carrier. Then, you have two hands free...one to hold the 2 year old's hand, or pull the wagon carrying her an dall her stuff. I see so many "abandoned" babies in strollers in the park. Babies should be held by people, not things.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTracy
I am not sleeping with my son!!!!!!!!! He moves round too much and he is a very light sleeper and need to be in a quite dark room and he sleeps perfectly fine!! I could not care less what they do in other countries IAM NOT DOING IT !!~!!!!!I want to have time with my husband and i like to read in bed as well. Shove it lady you and i dont care what research says either it is all bull anyway and these kids who sleep with there parents just grow up weird!!!!!!!

August 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterj armstrong
socks for my son is pretty useless he does not like wearing them!1 takes them off as soon as we are in the door. middle of january does not matter!! besides the first time you wash them they get lost anyway!!

August 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterj armstrong
humm tracy we are not african mothers sorry!! there is nothing wrong with a stroller!!
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterjarmstrong
I completely agree with some things in the article, and disagree with a few things. For one the crib. I'm a very "wild" sleeper, so much so my husband either chooses to sleep on our couch, or if he does sleep in our bed, there is a big pillow to prevent my wild flailings at times in the night. I prefer my son and daughter to sleep in their crib when they were babies- there were times there had to be exceptions when they were really ill and already being sleep deprived from infanthood, it was just easier to have them sleep in bed with me. As for having a wipes warmer, please. For one you don't need to sink into the whole marketing baby products. When my parents were kids in the 50's/60's do you think their mothers had wipes? Plain on clothes with soap and water suffice, so that's good enough for me too. On the plus side, seldom does my daughter even now (2) have any sort of diaper rash as a result because bacteria is breeding ground on soft, moist surfaces. Good ol soap and water (and I use luke warm) cleans up like you would expect, and you pat dry with a towel or receiving blanket and all the unnecessary moisture that is breeding ground is non existant. People will always do what's best for their daily lifestyle so just because this works for me, doesn't mean it will for someone else though.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKrystal Mac
I slept with both my children when they were babies, it was easier cause I was breast-feeding. I found the bouncing chair helpful especially the one that vibrates, It really helped when I was cooking or washing dishes or anything else when I needed my hands free. I'm a native woman, but in my culture we have what you called "Tikanagan" in other words cradle board. You can actually work when you have that. The baby is nice and warm and can eat and sleep in it, basically it feels like the baby is cradled. Google it, and you'll see how stylish it is, some people make them very beautiful.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSherry
I always have to laugh when I see or hear someone defending co-sleeping. I have taught kindergarten, elementary and second school over the last 34 years and every year, with other teachers, have been able to point out the co-sleepers in every grade. Children who sleep with their mums have a marked lack of independent thinking skills and generally desplay unacceptable social issues, and are almost always either loners or followers. Children who aren't allowed to learn how to sleep alone have difficulty with so many things. No one benefits from co-sleeping. And by the way, our "co-sleeping ancestors" had to have sex in front of their children.

August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMiz Ginz
I LOVE my bassinett!! I'm on my 5th (finally a girl! lol) and for each one I used a bassinett before the crib. I also love the recieving blankets, i dunno about anyone else but my kids loved to be swaddled and how do you do that without a reieving blanket? I have about a dozen and its barely enough. I also have a change table, but I don't use it to change Daysie on, but I do use it to store her diapers (cloth), plastic pants, undershirts and pajamas. I never understood why someone would want to change their child sideways, just makes it more difficult.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commentermama24boyz
Agree with wipes warmer (well, wipes in general. Just use wash cloths - much gentler on the skin). We didn't bother with bottle warmers (just ran it under warm water on the odd occasion we gave a bottle). We used the bassinet for the first 3 months - it was so much easier to have her close, then used the crib after that (occasionally co-slept, but only when necessary). Agree that video monitors cause major paranoia - exactly why I didn't want one! We also used our baby tub - found it much easier than the kitchen sink actually.

What I found to be useless that wasn't on the list - nursing covers. Could nurse in public without covering. Also, all the blankets we had were unnecessary - we only needed one or two for playtime.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAme
anything called "newborn". My kids were born at least 9lbs each. They didnt fit in "newborn". And any fancy clothes. Why?. Babies want freedom not tight fitting jeans and sweats. Blankets. In the winter, put them in a heavy sleeper over their terry sleepers. This way they are always covered and dont get tangled up in a blanket - and wake up! Snow suits and boots. What the heck eh! A baby is just that a baby. They grow up fast enough
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterdiane
2Bassinett I used for the 1st 3 months with both my girls

Crib I used til my first was 3, & am still using the same one for my 14 month old (it's a safety zone for her when I'm taking a shower; dealing with my 4 year old; for her bedtime & naps!)

I place the wipe on my bare leg to warm them up

Used & am using my bed for a change table

I would go in the bathtub for bath time: better grip on a slippery, soapy baby

Linens/burp sheets - depends on the child; my first drooled & spit up constantly, my 2nd- barely

Had a free rocking chair, never used it

I have to admit, I'm a little bothered by the "never add a step to the feeding arrangement" & cold milk. Maybe the medical experts say it's ok, but they also prescribed smoking as a healthy activity; they also prescribed formula feeding over breastfeeding in the 70's. 2 points: Breast milk is always naturally warm; and we are the only annimals/mammals that drink another animal's milk (other animals may eat meat, eggs etc, but none of them drink milk once they've finished nursing). I like to find most of my inspiration & guides from nature, I believe that things naturally happen as is best for us (usually).

Stacey/whatever: I agree with the cold=not very appetizing & eating foods cold or leftovers. But if you had a choice, don't you prefer your foods hot/warm when they're supposed to be served that way?I believe in cutting corners to save time: with 2 kids or more, a job & a relationship, there's not enough time in the day for everything, I just don't feel comfortable doing it with feedingAfter that point, just to be a devil`s advocate, I do like a nice double ice cream cone on a hot summer`s day :)!

Toys, I agree, especially stuffed ones! The crib should be empty, so no more stuffed bears as gifts PLEASE!

I just saw a pic of someone using a Bumbo in the bathtub to support their baby. If I have a 3rd, maybe I'll try it, but then how do you wash the bum/upper legs?



August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMommy of 2
I remember one time unloading the dryer and I found eleven socks with no match! How did that happen? The dryer is right beside the washer!!!!
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJo-Anne
Miz Ginz....I'd like to see the "research" on your study here. Did you end up asking all those anti-social kids if they co-slept, or their parents? Most people around the world co-sleep. It is biologically natural. It keeps our children warm and safe. My husband and I have raised three thoughtful, independent children, all co-sleepers. Magically, we've never crushed one of them, even after a glass of wine or two. My sisters and I co-slept with our parents. Most of my friends (yes, I have friends) have co-slept with their children. By 3 or 4 all of these kids slept wonderfully in their own beds.

Sex! Wow, as the oldest of 3 and a co-sleeper, I have no recollections as to wether or not my parents had sex while I was in the room. Did you know that people can have sex somewhere other than the bed next to the baby? We live in a culture in which sex is plastered everywhere. The images we are bombarded with are not about love but purely desire. Heaven forbid that we teach our kids that two loving adults engage in sexual activity.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLisa S.
I have to agree with Ms. Hominini. I too have read a lot on the anthropological significance of co-sleeping. Many countries do this, and if you can't imagine sleeping with your baby in the same bed it doesn't mean that it's impossible for others to co-sleep with their baby. As for Miz Ginz, I have to disagree with you because not all children who co-sleep become "loners" or weird, I have many friends who come from cultures where co-sleeping is the norm and they are just fine, many of them being confident and having strong leadership skills. It depends on the individual in this case.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterRe:
re: baby detergent... my oldest baby was extremely allergic to it! cheer worked fine though.

re: co-sleeping and independent thinking... what a joke! ECE/ESW parent with 5 independent minded children who have met their developmental milestones within the normal range and are all average to excellent students (aside from the baby who hasn't started school yet!)

re: sex and co-sleeping... there's no requirement that a parent must have sex while the child is sleeping in bed with them. Get creative for goodness sake! Have a shower with your partner or something! lol
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterjaded
I agree in principal, but what you have not addressed is the father's role in this co-sleeping debate. I personally know of a family member that was sleeping with her infant and in the night the baby was found underneath her comatose husband! Thankfully the baby was fine, but an accident waiting to happen.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterGrace
I am also a teacher, and it saddens me that someone who is so narrow minded is teaching children.I co-slept with my daughter for the first 6 months of her life, because that's how long it worked for us. She is now 14 months and is quite independent, and has been hitting all of her milestones on time. I am not worried that I have somehow hindered her ability to socialize because she slept in my arms for 6 months (and still does sometimes).I am always telling other new moms that they should do WHATEVER WORKS. If your baby sleeps better in your bed, do it. As women and mothers we should be far more supportive of each other than spewing this ridiculousness. I am incredibly offended by your "observations", which I suspect are actually very biased opinions.And by the way, there are other places besides bedrooms to have sex.

August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNicole
I agree with you. My eldest (8years old going on 45 lol)has been marked at school as independent, thoughtful, and has more friends than I care to mention (everyday it's a race for them to call first for a playdate). My second son still co-sleeps with his dad *gasp!* and I have been questioned if he is a small 3-4 year old (he's 2.5 years old) because of his empathy, listening/verbal skills and his co-ordination. I have never used a crib with my youngest and I co-sleep with her in another room, separate from my husband and 2nd son. She has severe, life threatening health issues and I cannot count the number of times she has nearly choked and/or stopped breathing while I was there. Had I not been sleeping with her, she wouldn't likely be here now. Co-sleeping isn't for everyone and I wouldn't push the issue on how to raise other people's children but for us, it's a way of life and it's helped us keep a life ;)
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterStacey
Co-sleeping is fine when the child is 2 years of age and older, but what about the children that are killed every year from parents rolling over their newborn and suffocating them. You need to do more research on this. In third world countries you don't here about the many deaths from co-sleeping.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterBecky
I believe if you want to co-sleep with your child, it should be no body elses business, do what ever works for you. For all those out there want to criticize, mind your own business, no one is telling you that you have to do it too.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSarah
i HAVE 3 THOUGHTFUL AND INDEPENDANT CHILDREN. AS A PARENT I CAN ACTUALLY DEFEND BOTH SIDES OF THIS SITUATION. MY 1ST CHILD WAS VERY SICK WITH LEUKEMIA. SHE SHARED THE FAMILY BED FOR 2.5 WONDERFUL AND SCARY YEARS BEFORE SHE PASSED. IN THIS UNIQUE SITUATION WE WERE ABLE TO SHARE COUNTLESS AMAZING AND SCARY MOMENTS AS A FAMILY, SHE WOULD HAVE PASSED ON MUCH SOONER HAD WE NOT BEEN THERE WITH AN IMMEDIATE RESPONSE A FEW TIMES. MY SECOND CHILD IS VERY HEALTHY AND NOT A CUDDLER AT ALL. HE SLEPT IN THE FAMILY BED A FEW NIGHTS AND QUICKLY MOVED TO THE CRIB WHERE HE WAS MORE COMFORTABLE. MY 3RD CHILD IS VERY CUDDLY AND TACTILE. HE SHARED THE FAMILY BED UNTIL HE WAS 3 THEN TRANSITIONED TO HIS BIG BOY BED VERY NICELY OF HIS OWN CHOICE. HE IS NOW 9 AND WILL OCCASIONALLY CLIMB IN WHEN HE HAS A NIGHTMARE BUT USUALLY SELF SOOTHES. I THINK THE LEVEL OF PERSONAL ATTACKS IN THESE COMMENTS ARE HEINOUS. NO PARENT SHOULD BE JUDGED SO HARSHLY FOR THE CHOICES THEY MAKE. EACH CHILD IS UNIQUE AND SO ARE THE PARENTS. WE ARE ALL JUST DOING THE BEST WE KNOW HOW BECAUSE WE ALL HAVE ONE THING IN COMMON... WE LOVE OUR BABIES AND WANT TO DO WHAT WE BELEIVE IS RIGHT. THE BEST PART IS "RIGHT" IS DIFFERENT FOR ALL OF US.
August 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterROBYN

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