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Tuesday
Nov152011

Is Co-Sleeping Dangerous? A New Ad Campaign Says So

The City of Milwaukee has very high rates of infant death, and one of the ways they have chosen to tackle this problem is through an education campaign and simple-to-understand posters aimed at scaring parents away from the evils of...co-sleeping.

According to Milwaukee's Health Department, sleeping with your baby is as dangerous putting a giant sharp blade next to your baby in the bed. They suggest that a crib is always a safer option and offer a toll-free number for free cribs.


Follow the jump to see the posters.

 


Baby-knifead1largeMy babies co-slept with me, in a safe way. There weren't any soft pillows, comforters or knives involved.

Anti-co-sleeping-adimage credit: City of Milwaukee Health Department

The City of Milwaukee has a high infant mortality rate and is no doubt trying to do the right thing by creating these ads. Unfortunately, their high-minded idea completely fails as a safety measure.


Co-sleeping is not dangerous if proper precautions are taken. In fact, there is some evidence to suggest that co-sleeping is beneficial to babies as well as the mothers. It certainly makes breastfeeding easier.


The parents of Milwaukee would probably benefit from some education on what safe sleeping looked like, as well as the benefits of breastfeeding instead of offensive ads that will make many parents feel guilty. Because bed sharing happens, for some it is a conscious decision, for others it changes nightly.


Ads like this mean that mothers who co-sleep, either out of necessity or choice, may be afraid to talk to their doctors and support people about it, and may not learn how to co-sleep safely. They may not realize that the fluffy pillows, duvets (and, of course, knives) should not be near the baby while sleeping.


PhDinParenting points out that co-sleeping is in fact less dangerous that driving in a car. She writes:



The idea that crib sleeping is always a perfectly acceptable alternative to co-sleeping is laden with as much societal and cultural baggage as the assumption that walking is always a perfectly acceptable alternative to travel by car. Sometimes it might be, but often it simply isn’t. Health authorities need to stop scaring and shaming parents and instead teach them about the pros and cons of different sleep options and about the things that they can do to make their chosen sleep environment as safe as possible.



She cheekily created this poster to make her message clear.


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image credit: PhDinParenting


What do you think? Do you think the posters are overkill?


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Reader Comments (82)

I agree. These draconian measures are irresponsible. Instead, why not pour all that creative energy into promoting breastfeeding and supporting breastfeeding moms? The ramifications of a population with low tolerance for and support for breastfeeding far exceeds the danger of sharing a bed with a baby, which in itself is not only safe but should be encouraged. They should start taking a hard look at the rates of breastfeeding to look for clues about high infant mortality and not only educate but also support families who are breastfeeding (tax incentive maybe ...a little hard to enforce maybe !!!)
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterErin
It is overkill....how about supporting formula feeders and the parents who DON'T co-sleep. Those are the ones that take a lot of flack. Take it from me.....I got it all for not doing BOTH!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNicole
This is nothing but more scare tactics by the socialwork mentality of child care. Education is the best answer not fear factor. What mother's idiot child came up with this. All my children are alive (4 of them) and they all slept with their mother as babies while she was breast feeding. They even had naps with dad and for me this is some wonderful memories. These college educated idiots called child care workers, social workers and their ilk first of all should have to be parents before they work. Nothing like practical hands on experience to give a real education and that is what is lacking in most of the so-called professionals.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJohn Crockford
Wow I've haven't seen anything quite so ignorant in a long time. My daughter, who is almost 18 months, slept with us from the day she came home until she was nearly a year and now she spends about half the night in her crib and half in our bed. She is not only alive and well but healthy and extremely bright. The fact is she is healthy and well because we coslept not despite it. She had quite bad acid reflux when she was born and having her close was very important. When she refluxed and aspirated we were right there to pick her up and keep her safe.

There is strong evidence to support that co-sleeping can benefit babies and even lower the risk of SIDS. Education is essential and scare tactics are, as the previous poster pointed out, just plain irresponsible.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commentercarbaby
There is so much evidence out there to support the fact that co-sleeping is safe and actually beneficial if done properly (ie: no fluffy bedding/big blankets, etc). The City of Milwaukee is pointing fingers in the wrong direction in trying to reduce their high infant mortality rate. Go look up some statistics: in the year 2000, there were 28,411 infant deaths in the US. Only 60 of those deaths involved being in an adult bed (which means they weren't necessarily co-sleeping, this also includes falls from and adult bed and the infant passing away while alone in the bed). Like Erin posted before me, why not put energy into promoting breastfeeding as a way of reducing infant deaths? Breastfeeding increases the infant's immunity (means less trips to the doctor because of sickness, too), reduces the risk of SIDS, helps prevent food allergies, and is free! Only North America has such a warped opinion when it comes to breastfeeding.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer
Their posters are extremely misleading and, in fact, shows a baby sleeping in a position that studies show is one of the leading causes of SIDS." First and foremost, infants younger than 1 year old should be placed on their backs to sleep — never face-down on their stomachs." http://kidshealth.org/parent/general/sleep/sids.html.Perhaps a little education for the makers of the posters and better education for new parents would help the situation without making parents feel guilty for sharing in a closeness that goes a long way to creating a bond with their child.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCindy
I can not begin to understand how some peoples minds work. My kids didn't sleep with me all the time, but very, very often, when they woke up for feedings, i would bring them in bed with me and we would both fall asleep while breast feeding. My kids are now 2 and 4, and are both healthy and happy! I loved waking up and seeing my baby sleeping next to me, all cuddled up close for warmth, and there was no better feeling then knowing that my child was at his/her happiest snuggled next to mama! The bond I have with my babies is strong and unbreakable! The people who made these posters have no idea what they are talking about!!!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKiim
breast feeding is not the issue... I have 3 children and never had to breast feed in public.. keep it where it belongs if you need to feed while out they have invented lovely breast pumps for that! As for co-sleeping... what a friggin' joke... I think the infant mortality rate has something to do with entirely different issues???
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterjennifer@exhibitionpark.ca
Some of us don't feel the need to have to duck away and pump in public. My daughter is 16 months and still to this day has never taken a bottle she refuses. It makes me sad that there are mothers out there who feel they cannot take their babies out for an afternoon. It's a boob! Everyone has them! Men have nipples, women have nipple, kids too have nipples. Most of the time you can't even see the boob. I'm not saying stand on a chair and shout "hey everyone look at what I'm doing" but in Canada they have rights to protect women who choose to breastfeed in public. As a woman and a mother you should be happy that more fellow moms are doing the right thing for their babies and choosing to breastfeed. I'm glad that you have never had to breastfeed in public but those of use who have had no other choice at the time should not feel ashamed for feeding our children.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTyla
JUST FOLLOW WHAT YOUR PARENTS AND GRANDPARENTS DID THE JUST THING. WE STILL SURVIVE
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterVivek
Yes the posters are a little much, but much like anything from food, sleep habbits etc, the information is always changing. I did not sleep with my children in the night. First off the bed is for the parenting couple to have a relationship after the child is born. Next I personally feel that unless the child has some sort of chronic illness that you need to keep the child close, then I feel bed sharing is done for a couple reasons only. I feel its done to keep the child asleep longer(rest for parent) and because of the parents own issue with seperation anxiety. Just like mothers who feel it necessary to breastfeed past 1 year or so. Guess what there is no nutritional value left after 1 year(stats) We all know breast is best, if you can't because of no milk supply, then thats different. If you are doing formula for convenience, even when home...selfish! This is coming from a mom with a 10 month old to date and proud that since she and her sister before her have been breast fed and sleep in their own bed to learn how to sooth themselves and sleep through the night since 6 months of age. Sometimes we need to think more of our babies best interest and less of our own. Fulltime nanny for many years before hand and learned through watching others experiences.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTammy
Thank you Tyla, couldn't have said it better myself. Yes, we're getting off topic, but I find it ridiculous that breastfeeding in public is even an issue. We are being affected by misinformation from the past. Our parents were told that formula was better than breastfeeding just so manufacturers could make a buck, and they were made to feel ashamed so that it would seem like there was no alternative but to formula feed. It has been PROVEN that breastmilk is better for baby, so now we must instead set a precedent for the future, and encourage breastfeeding moms. It is nothing to be ashamed of!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJenna
Actually, Health Canada recommends breastfeeding for 2 years and beyond, so mothers who are breastfeeding past 1 year are not really doing so because of their own separation anxiety. Breast milk still contains antibodies after 1 year (even though the actual nutritional value has decreased) so the increased immune support is the reason why it is recommended to continue to breastfeed.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer
Its not so much that the ads are overkill, which they are, its more the case that they don't actually inform parents of anything. The message seems so be that sleeping in the bed as your baby is dangerous when the reality is that having your child sleep alone in a crib with pillows and comforters is where the danger lies, not in the adults that share the bed with the infant.

Yes the ads have impact but ironically, despite the cutlery, they totally miss the point.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAndy Hawkins
The ads are a bit much but there is no denying the science - cosleeping is now the number one association with SIDS. This has nothing to do with pillows, comforters, etc, these are deaths with no explanation, no suffocation. You will notice in the pictures that the first baby is on its belly and the second is on its side, both also associated with a higher chance of SIDS. I get cosleeping, it makes sense with breast feeding but I am not sure that I would take any extra chance of SIDS with my baby.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterE
I'm sorry but I agree with them. They are having a real hard time trying to keep babies alive and you are debating an ad campaign instead. Lets focus on the REAL problem and obviously they have had many deaths by co-sleeping. They have people at the grass roots level teaching proper co-sleeping but the masses don't all get to hear the message. Better just to stop co-sleeping. They are GIVING AWAY free cribs! That shows they are being proactive. So stop hating the ads and help save babies by getting more families using the cribs. Send money to Milwaukee to help buy more cribs and save babies instead of griping.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJo
OMG, can you stop with the breast feeding. WE KNOW! I am a mother of 3 and all of my kids have survived. They were breast-fed, bottle-fed, formula-fed, co-sleepers, slept on their own in all sorts of beds, and I even dropped one. SIDS is SIDS, we won't ever be able to irradicate it.... Stop making us feel bad for our decisions, Whatever they may be! Whether I stopped breast feeding at 4 months, 6months,36 months or whether I pulled my child into bed with me insteading of dropping her(as I tried to nurse half-asleep in my rocking chair). Those were and are my decisions to make. And it is not anyones place to judge you for those choices!Education is definately the best thing but seriously... a knife! It is sickening to think that some poor young, uneducated mom will see that and it will scare her to bits. She will be to scared to ask for helpor advice. AND lets face it most public health nurses and pediatricians are intimidating enough without those images in your brain!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterChristina
Where is the poster with an infant drinking a bottle of formula with a toxin symbol on it?! 90% of all SIDS babies are formula fed babies but i don't see a poster raising awarness for that.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMargy
Stick with more current info and from a reliable source. ie.http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/databriefs/db74.htm

U.S. infant mortality rates vary greatly by race and ethnicity.In 2007, the infant mortality rate for non-Hispanic black women was 13.31 infant deaths per 1,000 live births, 2.4 times the rate for non-Hispanic white women (5.63)The infant mortality rate for American Indian or Alaskan Native women (9.22) was 64 percent higher than the rate for non-Hispanic white women.The infant mortality rate for Puerto Rican women (7.71) was 37 percent higher than the rate for non-Hispanic white women.In contrast, infant mortality rates for Mexican, Cuban, Central and South American, and Asian or Pacific Islander (API) women were 4–19 percent lower than for non-Hispanic white women.

November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJo
The benefits past 6 months are marginal http://skepticalob.blogspot.com/2010/08/breastfeeding-and-what-it-means-to-be.html. Even before that time, the only "proven" benefit is gastro-inentestinal in the very young. A lot of the rest is speculation that has not been rigourously confirmed. And (this from a breastfeeder) I fail to see how formula feeding (even if solely by choice) by a mother is selfish in any way (providing of course, decent access to clean water and non-tainted containers, unlike in a refugee camp or something) since the baby is still receiving highly adequate nutrition (see: near-entire generation who grew up fine on the stuff), especially if that helps the mother stay somewhat sane and happy. Guess what, sane and happy mothers tend to be better mothers. I breastfeed. I (reluctantly) co-sleep with my second child who is 10 months (first kid, who is three was great in his crib since 3 months). But man, I understand the sentiment of not always "feeling like it" or feeling like you can'T win one way or the other. Breastfeeding in public is the easiest way to feed him, it's convenient. It's still awkward . At the end of the day, it's just draining. In short, if it isn't completely working for you, then so be it. Re: co-sleeping, a Quebec Coroner's Reporthttp://www.cbc.ca/news/health/story/2011/10/28/mtl-cobedding.html just came out also condemning the practice. Now I find it funny that many women who are so very pro breastfeeding and against any product that doesn't sell itself as 'natural' (despite the fact many such products are molecularly the same as the standard model) will take such a risk (they may not view it as a "huge risk' but we are talking potential death here, why do we so willingly go there?). I guiltily do so simply because the kid just.won'T.sleep otherwise...and then neither will the preschooler or the husband who has to wake up to go to work. I love certain aspects of it, but I do feel I am taking an unnecessary risk, and I hope every night he will stay sleeping in his bed where he started out rather than with me...and I love the little guy beyond words, we've got a great bond yadiyada (as do I with the kid I NEVER co slept with!). Cosleeping is more dangerous than formula feeding on this continent. If you are willing to take the risk, just accept the fact as is. I know I am.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterPincourt
Andy you make a great point. I am always stunned when I see reality TV shows like A Baby Story and other similiar ones and the baby's cribs or bassinets have thick bumper bads, blankets, stuffed animals, etc. That is FAR more dangerous than having a baby cosleep with parents who are educated in how to safely do that.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commentercarbaby
The issue here is if the ads went too far? Where do I begin? How about the picture of the baby sleeping on it's stomach when it's been proven that babies who sleep on their back have a lower risk of SIDS. All 3 of mine slept in the bed with us mostly because I would fall asleep while nursing. A good alternative is to push the crib right up to your bed and lower or remove the front rail, then it is simply a matter of sliding baby over, feed and slide back. I would like to see stats on how many parents had consumed alcohol or drugs before co-sleeping when a death or injury had occured.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterchristinekoski@hotmail.com
I coslept with my daughter until she was four years old...she is now a healthy 13 year old...who has no issues sleepping on her own in her own bed since she was 5. I did this for easy breastfeeding at night (up to 13 months) and then continued because of economic reasons (Im a single parent and it was so much cheaper to rent a one bedroom instead of two).Personally its up to the parents and what THEY feel comfortable with, just like ANY decsions we make on behalf of our kids; breastfeed or Don't...cosleep or Don't...start solids at 3 months or don't... vacinate or don't...Parenting is hard work no mater what you do, its riddled with guilt regarding the right and wrong ways to parent and everybody and thier dog will have a different opinon...but these ads go overboard, PERIOD!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterPearl
Reply to Nicole and Christina: Jennifer is stating the fact that breast feeding is so important to a child's health and well being, I have seen it with my own children. Always remember people can only make you feel bad about certain decisions you have made in your life...... if you allow them too. I regret not breastfeeding my first son later that 3 months as I see such a difference in his general immune system, he out of all his siblings (3), is always sick and take ages to recover, unlike my other children. I did not know better and admit I made the wrong choice. Unfortunately there are people that choose to read sites that state breastfeeding has no benefits after 6 months are ignorant.....never believe everything you read on the internet!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAlix
The City of Milwaukee has a high infant mortality rate, but that does not tell me how these babies are dying and if it is related to where they are sleeping in any way shape or form.

I think it is rediculous to suggest that sleeping with your baby is like putting them to bed with a knife, and I think it makes the people behind the posters look silly.

There is so much misinformation in the world dressed up with expert opinions it is really frustrating.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNonie
I think the posters are overkill. Everyone thinks they know the right way and stand by the options that have worked for them. Remember the ads for SIDS prevention in the 80's and 90's? First it was the right way for babies to sleep on their tummies, then they scratched that and said it was right for them to sleep on their backs, then their sides, then their backs...??! The problem with advertisers and know-it-all parents who like to force their opinions on first-time parents, is that they make parents doubt what they already know is right. No one can tell me the "right way" to do things with my son because they don't know him like I do and they are not his mother. Not that you can't learn things from other experienced parents, so long as you are given the freedom to take away what YOU know is relevant to you and your child. Why don't these advertisers promote programs and resources that can educate first-time parents about what their options are? Why don't they explore local environmental causes that might be influencing their infant mortality rate?

I have co-slept with my son, especially since he was a sleepy eater and I had to give him more opportunities to feed throughout the day and night. Our bed was up against the wall so he wouldn't fall off the edge and he didn't need a blanket because of the body heat. I was just naturally in tune to his position on the bed and I would find myself waking up to check his position every time he would move as I offered him a chance to feed. His father slept on my other side because he was a deep sleeper and preferred to leave us to our own space on the bed. But I'm not going to take this further and throw it out to all parents that this is the best way or the right way, heck no! You do what you feel is right for your child, some times it does involve trial and error so pick a few options to toggle through until you find what works. There is no tried and true manual on how to raise all children, sorry for the sticklers and researchers out there, but there will never be one so long as each child is born a unique individual.

As for breastfeeding, no need to feel ashamed or prude about it, again, you do what YOU feel is right and don't be condescending to others if they do things differently. I chose to compromise: I purchased a breastfeeding blanket that had a hole in the middle and a mesh material that allowed for breathing and ventilation for the baby. I just slipped it over my head, made sure the mesh was covering my son and there you go. No one has to see it, and I am free to do it without the dirty looks and stuck up noses. By the way, pumping my not be a good idea for ALL mothers, I was advised against it by my family doctor. I produced more milk than my son was taking in and therefore pumping would have encouraged a stronger flow than I could keep up with. It's not true for all mothers because every woman's body is different (and every baby is different), which is why you should consult your pediatrician/family physician BEFORE choosing an option! Allowing another mother/co-worker/family member to pressure you or guilt you into an option can harm your body without realizing it and can cause future problems if it doesn't work out for baby.

So, the solution? Show support, show empathy, point out resources, consult professionals (your pediatrician, your family doctor, referrals to specialists), talk to other mothers to gain information and only consider what is relevant for baby's unique needs. Period.



November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSarah-Marie
Jennifer, I agree with you and the other posts that breastfeedingis natural and beneficial to both child and mother, and society in general in helping to grow healthy populations. I think it's ridiculous that women should have to hide away to feed their babies in this fashion. I also think that the family bed concept is very valuable and good for babies and parents. All three of my babies slept in the family bed until they were able to transition to their own room and bed. There was never any danger of myself or my husband rolling on top of the baby. These incidences usually are linked to substance consumption that renders the parents totally unconscious to their child and, thus, more likely to roll over on the baby. So, if you sleep with your baby, don't drink or consume substances that alter your normal sleep patterns. Parents of babies are naturally attuned to their sounds and movements during the night, and having the baby near the mother for on demand breastfeeding allows the mother to fulfill this requirement while still obtaining a pretty good sleep.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterShauna
Keep what where it belongs? are you that ashamed of breastfeeding that you feel that woman should only feed in the privacy of their homes ? do you only breastfeed in a closet in your home with the lighs out ?If a woman doesn't feel comfortable breastfeeding in public, then yes, by all means pump and bring a bottle. But if a mom feels comfortable breastfeeding in public - then go for it. I'm not advocating hiking up your shirt and letting your boob hang out, but there are ways to discreetly breastfeed in public.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterjules
Because-YOU never breastfed in public-Should not meen that it's wrong!As for Co-sleeping-Just because folks did it in the past with nothing going wrong--Doesn't meen that it's the smart thing to do!How many people have drove after drinking & how many miles/Kilometers & nothing Bad happened?When I was young -We (brothers&friends) learned to throw hatchets(like Daniel Boone) nothing bad happened but looking back-Not a smart thing!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commentercuckholddon
From co-sleeping to breastfeeding... Stick with the topic!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSara
I was a co-sleeper baby & have lived to tell my story. I was a supremely fussy baby & in order for my parents to get any sleep they put me in bed with them and it worked like a charm. We were all rested & it made them more effective parents during the day. It may not be right for all parents but to demonize the act by putting up offensive ads with babies in bed with knives is ridiculous. Perhaps Milwaukee needs to reexamine how they get their health information out to new parents. Perhaps instead of this threatening ad campaign they could focus their efforts on education and positive parenting. No one wants to feel demonized for raising their child as they see fit.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterPetunia
My son slept with me the first six months of his life out of necessity. He had sever collic and sleep was esentially grabbed when we could. I am sure it wasn't safe sleeping proceedures as usually I was propped up with several pillows and he was asleep on my chest. I covered him up with his blankets only. Not once did he slip off nor did I roll over on him. Not a habit I'd recommend any Mom to get into but I am very upset that this is compared to putting a knife in with a baby. New Mothers have enough to worry about without this kind of visions. Better to show a photo of how to do it safely chances are that would be more productive.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJulie
i didn't co-sleep with my two boys, but i have no problem with those who do...to each their own, whatever works for you.However, i do have an issue with those who assert that breastfeeding is easier while co-sleeping, or that you can only breastfeed "on demand" while co sleeping I breastfed on demand both my boys until they were almost a year old, through the nights, and never coslept - in fact, we tried co sleeping the first couple of nights but it was too difficult because i never felt comfortable breastfeeding while laying down (especially early days, when they were having trouble latching!) - so i'd have to turn on the light, and sit up and in the process totally wake up my husband, who had to work early. we found it much easier for me to just get up and go to the boys as soon as i heard them rustling on the baby monitor. its not a big deal i know, but i think that people are using the breastfeeding thing to justify co-sleeping - they are really two separate issues, keep them that way.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKatherine
What business is it for a CITY to tell people how to parent in the first place? And how exactly do they think infants slept for hundreds of thousands of years? Cribs are a recent invention, and babies are actually INTENDED to sleep with their mothers. My babies slept with me when they were restless, to calm them and make feeding easier. They only went into a crib when I just had to have a good night's sleep after terrible sleep deprivation. They certainly didn't sleep well when they did! I think the City is totally wrong and owes it's taxpayers an apology for wasting this money on a ridiculous campaign!!!
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTSD
Isn't it all related to the same topic. Are the ads over the top? Yes? No? Check this box.... As far as I can tell by the posts breastfeeding has a lot to do with the decision to co-sleep for a lot of people. They're not taking a poll, they're instigating discussion or more accurately debate. Go read the newspaper if you're not interested in thought progression. So for the record, Yes box checked, definitely sending the wrong message. And for everyone else, I didn't breastfeed long because they just didn't take, I co-sleep simply because if I didn't I'd never get any. My babies are healthy and happy and unique and the decisions were all mine. Now don't we think the real question here is whether these kind of scare tactics are really a better choice than education? And discuss.......
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAmanda
If you read my whole post, it's merely stating that instead of the City of Milwaukee making posters about co-sleeping as a way to reduce infant deaths, it would be more beneficial to make posters that advocate breastfeeding. A higher number of infant deaths are caused by SIDS rather than co-sleeping, and breastfeeding has been shown to reduce the risk of SIDS. That's where the connection to breastfeeding has been made by the first poster in this thread and others. Nobody is trying to make anyone feel bad, we're just pointing out the ad campaign's flaw.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer
If you read the science... co-sleeping actually REDUCES the risk of SIDS. Not increases.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer
I think that there are benefits to co-sleeping for sure, breast feeding is definately one, and just having that bonding time is great, plus they do seem to sleep a little longer when they get to cuddle with mommy, which is fantastic when you have a new born! Mine were never exclusively in our bed, I would always put them to bed in their own, but when they woke up for feedings, generally we would both fall asleep, and they would stay in our bed until morning...why stay awake if you don't need to? Or wake them up unnecessarily? All of my children were sleeping through the night after a few months, though, and then they were in their own beds full time, except of course for those nights when they just can't seem to sleep, or have nightmares, or are just not feeling well. I think that there is no definate rule...everyone parents differently, you do what works for you. I have 5 kids, and I even find myself parenting each of them differently.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commentereach to their own
I think that we shouldn't judge others on how they feel about breastfeeding in public. I breastfeed in public but with a light cover over my baby. For me, it's not a question about being embarrased of showing my boob in public, but rather about the fact that for me, breastfeeding is between my baby and I and I don't want to share that intamcy with strangers...so I found a happy medium. Having said that, I have respect for women who breastfeed in public and respect women who might not be comfortable to do so.As for co sleeping with my baby...I enjoy every moment of it!!!!! I just need some advice on how to get my baby used to sleeping in her crib too. I want to be able to have the best of both worlds :DAdvice anyone???
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterStephanie
i deffanitly agree with the adds. though maybe a tad over the top. it is a very real and very scary problem. a friend of mine lost his child because the mother rolled over her in bed only 6 weeks old. it was devastating. the mother is destroyed now knowing she was the one that ended her own daughters life. i never slept with either of my children due to the fact i couldn't handle it if i was the one who rolled on them. i rather get my cuddles in during the day and know they are safe at night.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterlehne
my god, what is this world coming to? i co-slept with my son from the get-go and never had a problem, not once.not only was breast feeding made easier, it solidifies the bond you have with your baby. i never once rolled over on him, found his face covered with blankets or pillows. in fact often times after feeding on one side, we would fall asleep curled together after he fed on the other side. i would not trade those moments for anything in this world. it was safe and most mom's have a natural instinct that keeps you aware of baby's presence. i know i sure did and was very conscious about how i shifted through the night and it did not disturb my sleep nor his at all, it was almost auto-pilot.

i also allowed him to sleep with me from time to time, until he was about 8. he would get scared or upset and want to be with mom. there is nothing wrong with being there to comfort your child and i would never feel guilty about it.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterchrisa
We are talking about sleeping with babies not breast feeding - do all of you need to talk about it? Then you should start your own blog

Where are the stats that prove that sleeping with a baby kills them? I dont see the evidence here.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAnne
try putting her in her crib when she first goe to bed and letting her sleep with you after she wakes up to eat. my daughter always woke up at 5am to eat so she slept in her bed until 5 then got to sleep with me until we woke up for the day. so i never had a problem getting her to sleep either place.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commentercandy


OMG what idiots, I had my daughter in our bed until she was 6 months old. I always knew where in bed she was and I loved the fact that she could just latch on to nurde without us both getting up and disturding our sleep. Our Midwife actually recomended that. My Daughter is now 13 years old and we always talk about how close we were when she was young.We also always joke about how she would scream if we put her in her crib or as she now refers to it as her jail. As for breastfeeding in public I did, although I used a cover-up.I do not judge other people on how they raise their kids (unless they are cruel to them) so I do not like it when people tell me how to raise mine. I think it is very different here in Canada more Liberal then in the USA.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterIrene
the bottem line for me is that every parent should do what best fits their family. If your child has a problem sleeping alone for whatever reason, You as their parent should do what is necessary. That may be different than what people say is the norm. But lets face facts here, who in this world can say what they do for their child would suit another, all kids are different in their needs. I am sick and tired of all the crap we here in the media about everything. One week eating eggs is bad for you and the next it's a miracle food. As a parent you should listen to your inner voice and ask yourself what it must be like to be a baby. We call them babies for a reason...they are needy. And these ads are wrong. If these people want to send a message, they should learn how to properly educate parents rather than send shock value, again shame on them for putting fear into folks.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterrosa
I'm not sure there's actually anything wrong with co-sleep occasionally. As a very old grandmother I'm more concerned with the issue of babies who don't know how to put themselves to sleep in their own bassinet or crib, a very important step in baby development. I've worked in education for many years and can pick out the sad little losers who sleep with mummy - no personality, no sense of independence, no decision-making ability. In high school they turn out to be the followers and NEVER the leaders. As well, I totally agree with Tammy that the parental bed has to be a child-free zone - otherwise it's like proving a child with the knife that will slice the marriage apart, if you will.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMinimo
love love love this post!!! can you be my childrens grandmother?
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterlehne
I work at a local hospital. Last month we had a baby brought in that had accidently been suffocated while sleeping in bed with the mother. Not nice to see.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterbuckingus@hotmail.com
You know what I agree with the fact of breastfeeding in public, to me if we are out in public and we get hungry do we NOT eat? Yes we all do so why not a little baby if they are hungry if the mother has a blanket wrapped around and you cant see anything what is so offensive about it ?? Nothing is ...
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commentertiny_girl_25@hotmail.com
keep it where it belongs??? you must be joking! every woman has the right to breastfeed in public if they feel comfortable doing so. sure don't whip your boob out in the middle of the aisle in the grocery store and let it flop free, but there is nothing wrong with feeding your child tastefully in public. breast pumps are not always cheap, are you going to supply mothers who may not have the money to buy one, with one?? it is natural for a mother to breastfeed her child, should she go hide in the bathroom? how about you go eat your next meal in the bathroom and see how pleasant an experience it is.
November 16, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterjennifer

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