Emma Waverman writes about the chaos of modern family life. She is the co-author of the family cookbook Whining and Dining: Mealtime Survival for Picky Eaters and Families Who Love Them and is hoping to one day finish her certification as a parenting coach. She lives with her three kids, ranging from tween to grade schooler, and husband in Toronto. Emma has written for a variety of national parenting and lifestyle magazines and newspapers. When she's is not making typos, telling you what she thinks, and thinking about dinner, you can find her on Twitter at @emmawaverman. You can contact Emma at embracingchaos@hotmail.ca.

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Jan022011

Why Does Facebook Hate Breastfeeding?

Jessica wanted to reach out and connect with other breastfeeding moms. She felt after her experiencing nursing five girls she had some wisdom to share and knew that nursing women often need to connect and exchange stories. To make it easier, she started a Leaky B@@b Facebook page as an offshoot of her blog, The Leaky B@@b. The Facebook community grew beyond her expectations to approximately 16,000 active monthly users, affectionately called "Leakies".


But then when she woke up on January 2, the community was gone, erased by Facebook for violation Terms of Service.


 

Within hours another Facebook page: Bring Back the Leaky Boob [update: the page was terminated by Facebook on Tuesday, January 3] was formed and by the end of the day had over 4,000 members had joined. For many new mothers the Facebook community had become more than just a page about breastfeeding; it was a place to vent, get support, lend a hand and give and get advice. The outraged Leakies are talking about nurse-ins at the Facebook offices on Friday, January 7. They are disgusted that Facebook decided that a supportive community covering topics of women and babies health is "obscene". In response, many women have changed their profile picture to a photo or image of a nursing child.


Mom nursing toddler in public at the beach This is not the first time that Facebook has taken down breastfeeding photos. In 2007, Kelli Roman's breastfeeding photos were deleted from her personal page; in response she started a Facebook page called,  Hey Facebook, breastfeeding pictures are not obscene. It currently has 258, 156 members with 6,855 pictures of breastfeeding and grows daily.


There are all sorts of images of breasts on Facebook (I checked): huge ones peeking out of a bra, fully naked, and even advertisements for breastfeeding products but it seems that only pictures of a mother nursing her child are inappropriate. (Check out Momotics for a post of some of what Facebook considers appropriate and PhDinParenting's breakdown of the issue)


In a New York Times article in 2009, Facebook said that showing the nipple is the problem, not the breastfeeding and that the company is just responding to complaints. It is hard to believe that people are complaining about pictures on their friend's profile pages, or that someone just tripped over the Leaky B@@b and was offended by the pictures.(Unless of course someone was searching for boobs and then was offended to see them being used as a food source, not a sexual object). There are some rumblings that there is a troll who searches out breastfeeding pages to report them and have them removed, or a disgruntled community member reported the page, but who knows.


The worst part of this particular action is that Facebook has removed an incredibly supportive place for  breastfeeding women to ask questions, seek advice, connect and celebrate. And they haven't even responded to Jessica's request for an explanalation for the termination.


Jessica wrote in an email that The Leaky B@@b Facebook page was started as an online pub:



a safe place for breastfeeding moms and the people that support them to get information, share stories and build community. I had in my head this idea of a community tavern where travelers meet up and exchange tales, encouraging new travelers and passing on road wisdom. Something I feel we've lost in this culture, we are so isolated in so many ways.



If I was currently having breastfeeding problems I would want to be part of that community. I'm not sure why Facebook is so threatened by it.


Mark Zuckerberg describes his personal interests as: "openness, making things that help people connect and share what's important to them, revolutions, information flow, minimalism" . That seems slightly ironic doesn't it?


If you would like to support The Leaky Boob, "Like" their Facebook page: Bring Back the Leaky Boob. (this page was removed by Facebook on Tuesday for violating their Terms of Service, click here to show your support.


(photo courtesy of Dagmar Bleasdale from Dagmar's Momsense. It is now her profile photo on Facebook.)


Update: Facebook contacted Rebecca on January 3and told her the Leaky Boob page was taken down in error.  But by 11 p.m. The Leaky Boob page was removed once again and this time the Leaky Boob support page was also taken down for violating Facebook's TOS. To support The Leaky Boob and to send a message to Facebook click on their third page: "Join TLB in Support of Women's Health."


Do you think breastfeeding pictures are inappropriate? Do you think Facebook has a right to pull down photos and pages about breastfeeding?


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Reader Comments (105)

do you women even know what your fighting for.have you even seen the site? i think breastfeeding is 100% ok in public as long as you are covered up i mean cmon boobs hanging out in mcdonalds while me and my family eat is a little to much.but really go to the site there is a picture of a woman squeezing her child between her boobs not even breast feeding fully naked. what about the girl fully naked bent over in a sexy pose with her baby sucking her boob i mean cmon you all have to agree thats just MESSED UP!! i came on here in support of all of you mothers but now definitely not. dont get side tracked by the nice picture on top of this page go to the website and tell me you want children seeing a mother squeezing her boobs together with her baby between them and thats what you want on facebook???? I DARE ANY OF YOU TO TAKE YOUR CHILDREN TO THE SITE AND LET THEM SURF THE PAGE ITS DISGUSTING.CONGRATS TO ALL THE NEW MOTHERS OUT THERE!!!. REMEMBER MEN ARE ONLY AS STRONG AS THE WOMAN NEXT TO HIM.AND DONT LISTEN TO NANCY K FOR SHE IS OBVIOUSLY A RELIGIOUS PSYCHO
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenternice guy
I think the problem I have with this article is No one should be exposed PERIOD on facebook, I don't care if its natural or not, If I was a man and exposed myself I would be charged but because I am a women and its 'The natural thing to do' its okay? I think that its okay to have a webpage in support of each other but the pictures I disagree with, I have my own boobs and I prefer to look at mine over yours And to all the Moms that expose themselves in public places I have a problem with even if your at my home. With a blanket covering up is fine but to see it all out there just because you have a kid doesn't mean social rules end. COVER UP!!!!!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCase
there is no reason why a woman has to whip out her breasts in public. I don't care if you're feeding your child. Breastfeed in the privacy of your own home because when I am shopping I don't want to have to see your private bits. it's not that hard to whip up a few bottles for a day away from home. And if you're going to breastfeed in public, don't scowl at anyone who's going to look at you (LOTS of public breastfeeders do this!) - if you're gonna whip 'em out in public, expect the public to look back. Don't want people looking? DON'T DO IT IN PUBLIC!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAlexis
I think it was probably people that stumbled across it and found this offensive. In my option its natural and if you dont like it dont look, I never checked out the blog but I think for women that have a hard time or are concidering breats feeding having supports out there is wonderful especially with peers on facebook.Its hard to believe so many people still have issues withthis just like that manager at Mc Donalds that asked that couple to leave if she wanted to continue to breast feed here baby that was only a few months old. Anyway I hope that people evolve and finally accept the method that been used since the begining of time to feed babies. Man all this technology we still have problems with a baby feeding from a breast.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterracheal
it looks as though about an hour ago that Facebook reinstated the group's page.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenteralmur
There are other breast feeding communities on the web. Right.And, I am certain that men open them up to see it's beauty and also there are thosewho open them up to ogle over them.No difference whether it is Facebook or somewhere else.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterlouise
I find this whole thing a travesty, a joke, stupidity. If Facebook and those posting "NAY" to Breastfeeding want to protect the users of Facebook, especially young children, then thye should lok very closly at the language and pictures posted by teenagers and yong adults as well. I am a modern adult and ocassionally use bad language BUT I know enough and hav enough self respect to know when, where, and how to use it. The language, blatant and suggestive that flourishes on Facebook everyday and the Pictures some yong (and old) people post is NOT acceptable to respectfull adults and teenagers.A page devoted to breastfeeding is most definately appropriate and informative. People who don't approve are narow monded bigots who flaunt thier biblical beliefs to create an outlook that this is sinfull. Those that say "read the bible" should read it carefully and understand the Bible is one of the dirtiest, filthiest and immoral books ever written. Brothers and sisters, moms and sons, fathers and daughters having sex and breeding as written in the Old Testiment. I am a God fearing man and believe totally BUT, if you want to quote the Bible then be sure of your facts.I do find fault in what Jan posted that we "don't need milk" and that formula is just as good as Breast Milk. Stick your head out from under this misbelief and read and learn what doctors have said for years. Breast Milk is FAR superior to formula and doctors strongly recomment breastfeeding over formula. If for health reasons a mother cant breastfeed then ok, but if she can then the baby will be healthier.



This is a ridiculous debate. Breastfeeding is literally the most natural thing in the world. Women in every single country breastfeed their babies, only in Western civilization do we put some kind of sexual label on a normal bodily function. Breasts are for babies, they are sexual objects only because we give them that purpose. The website was intended for breastfeeding mothers and really, no one else should be entering that site. If it offends you to look at a mother feed her child, don't click on the group. Facebook should be more concerned with the 15 year old girls in panties and bras that take pictures in their bathrooms and post them all over the place in an attempt to be "sexy". That is inappropriate, not breastfeeding mothers. People really need to get over this phobia of the female body. Breasts are natural and photographs of them completing their purpose are what is shown on this websitel and perhaps the only reason you're offended (Nancy K) is because you think sexual or innappropriate thoughts when you see a slightly exposed breast. As for the insane religious comments about burning in a fiery hell and having God judge us for our sins? God made the female body equipt with breast's in order to feed and nourish a child, I highly doubt a photograph of such a natural act would condemn anyone to "fiery hell." Perhaps you should just close your eyes.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterElizabeth
breastfeeding is a SIN....you're all going to hell....reproduction is a sin....and sex...and EVEYTHING that isn't sitting in a church singing hymns and reading carefully selected scripture (not the ones about murder in the name of god or suffering pointlessly because god wants to make a point or sex and debauchery mind you).......IS A SIN

phew....

and breastfeeding is insulting because I want to see boobs as a sexual object ...................

THAT'S CALLED TROLLING, please don't feed the trolls........for further information on trolls online see urbandictionary dot com

This is just another in a long line of very VERY embarassing complaints about something so inane and horrifyingly non controversial until someone got "butt hurt" and decided to make it an issue.

ARE WE FORGETTING THE WARS? ARE WE FORGETTING POVERTY? ARE WE FORGETTING HUMAN TRAFFICKING? THE ECONOMY BLUNDERS? CUTTING POLICE/FIREFIGHTERS? SPENDING BILLIONS ON FASHION/ENTERTAINMENT WHILE PEOPLE STARVE AND THIS CONVOLUTED SOCIAL SYSTEM OF ARTIFICIAL DEFICIT AND SUPPLY CONTINUE?

*sigh*

I don't even know why I'm posting, I usually don't, but I figure if only one person says to themselves "hmmm, maybe there IS something more important", then it will have been worth it.

January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDKnight
DKnight- I don't think anyone is forgetting about "wars", "Poverty" etc as you listed. BUT to say that breastfeeding is a sin is just plain stupid and ignorant. I have one question for you. IF breastfeeding is a sin, WHY did God create woman with breasts that lactate to feed babies???? I'm sure that He never intended to deliberately make people sin by breastfeeding.
DKnight .. I'm not sure, but I think Gary was indicating that people who say breastfeeding is a sin are trolls; I don't think he was expressing that opinion himself. Also I just want to say that my earlier post was tongue-in-cheek; I wasn't saying that formula is better than breastmilk, I was saying that it is akin to fast food for babies. I guess the tone didn't come across in my post!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterjan
I got the names messed up ... I meant Gary where I said DKnight and vice versa :)
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterjan
I have read all the comments posted for 2011 about breastfeeding. all those who wrote in I would like to ask you "were you a breastfed baby?" ask your mother if you were breastfed and come back with another comment. these days breastfeeding is easier then making a bottle, it doesn't require hot water from a jug and measuring the formula. breastfeeding is on tap mate and it comes in a shape of a boob.it is there whenever the child needs it. women who don't breastfeed their children brings health issues such as otis media (problems with ears), cough and colds, to low immunity. give all the women a break for trying to provide what is best for the child whether it be in public or in the privacy of their own home. only a woman would know what is best for her child and in return women have great bonding which brings smiles to communication with her child. if we all thought of this in the first place we women shouldn't have children so where would the world be without children and women. as for all the men who see thisbreastfeeding a problem, get a grip it is just the same as a man looking at a woman with big boobs. only problem is that they are not at the end of the boob like the child. last but least to all the women breastfeeding, ask all the questions you need, for all first time mothers breastfeeding requires patiences and plenty of support from friends and family. they say it takes two to make a child but it takes the whole family/friends to nurture that child.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTnia
@ Mrs. Romanko Quote: "I'm surprised you're on the internet at all, considering you're such a bigomist." Did you maybe mean "bigot"? I'm pretty sure a bigomist is a man who is married to more than one woman at the same time. No disrespect meant at all... just clarifying.As for the debate... I agree if you need to do it in public, bring a blankie to cover yourself up. Just accept the fact that some people are uncomfortable with witnessing it, and go on with your own life. What some stranger says on forums or Facebook should have no impact on you or how you choose to nourish your baby. There's no reason to try to drum your beliefs/preferences into peoples' heads... people are going to believe what they want.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterEDK
There is more cleavage shown in the party pictures people post on their walls than when a baby is latched on to the breast. Facebook - I shake my head at you and all others who have an anti-breastfeeding stance.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterBrittany
But the good news is that The Leaky Boob's Facebook page has been re-instated. Let's hope Facebook keeps it up this time.

I have been really surprised by the tone of the comments. A Facebook page devoted to breastfeeding is not a group of naked women in a food court, it is a page that is sought out by people who want to know more about breastfeeding. The pictures were of a personal nature. The issue here is that Facebook seems to delete breastfeeding photos indiscriminately and in doing so, implies that they are "obscene". Since breastfeeding is legal, encouraged and in fact public breastfeeding is protected under law, I hardly think obscene is the correct category.

January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterEmmachaos
Maybe because the founder is a leaky b**b!! LOL!!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterkates
I really don't think DKnight is being honest with his/her opinions. I think it's a ploy to get attention and nothing more because no one on earth can possibly be this moronic. Breasts are both for nursing and pleasure whether we as humans like to admit it or not. Ask any doctor. I've nursed two of three of my kiddo's when they where babes and I can also attest to the fact that when my hubby goes to town - I enjoy!! So get over it! And why on earth do so many people have the need to bring your religion into everything? Stop using your God as a front and stop trying to push your goofy religion onto others. But for those who truly believe you are going to hell then I suppose Mary is there waiting for you because I can tell you that baby Jesus was nursed and that there wasn't any formula for that kiddo. Bottom line, nursing is natural, breasts are natural and so are the senses involved with the region. FB should not condemn something special and supportive. I wonder if someone started an Erectile Dysfunction page if it'd be taken down...hmm...people who have nothing better to do than to creep pages and report what they consider offensive are in need of a psychiatrist...really people, get a life. The folks at FB need to get a grip and make better decisions before they react!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNan
I hope I`m not imagining this, but I think DKnight was being sarcastic. It is a completely ridiculous complaint, especially with how much REAL nudity you see via Facebook. I am currently breastfeeding my second child, and I choose to do it with a little more subtlety than others, but as far as I`m concerned, that`s your choice. I personally don`t feel comfortable with my boob out for the world to see, and choose to cover up with a receiving blanket. That being said, all talk of God aside, breastfeeding is the healthiest, most natural form of nourishment you can give your baby, and many mothers do need support in doing so. Groups like TLB provide that support. Enough said.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterShandi
i'm currently nursing my fourth baby and i fully agree with breastfeeding! i don't agree with facebook's actions towards deleting any photos of nursing mothers... especially with how many inappropriate photos are already on facebook... really? the nursing ones are the worst? come on!

all that being said... i know that nursing mothers aren't nursing their babies for the ongoing chances to flash their boobays all around town, BUT! i DO know of many mothers out there who take it as an opportunity to be offended... waiting for someone to acknowledge the fact that are nursing without a covering, or without leaving the room, or sometimes, nursing at all...

i was going to support the facebook group as suggested by this article, but when i found the site, the first photo i saw was a half naked mother sitting on a tree nursing her baby. to me, this screams mothers who are fighting to be offended. i think there is a better, more modest way to offer other nursing mom's support. as i mentioned, i am nursing my fourth, and i would love a support group to offer guidance to mothers who are currently nursing their firsts, but this isn't a group i can fully agree with. sorry.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenteralison
it's weird how they take down breastfeeding groups that help new moms but they keep up the KKK group and any other bigot group... stupid facebook they need to get their priorities straight
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commentermolly
Really stupid thing to do on Facebooks part. The 'troll' theory makes the most sense. Probably staffers at one of the multinational formula companies trying to end breastfeeding awareness and dumb down the next generation with the nutritionally inferior formula they sell to mothers regularly. Either that or there is some baby hating moderator on staff at Facebook who thinks that any mother who feeds their baby is some sort of albatross.

One could really fly with all the conspiracy theories out there. At the end of the day, Facebook looks dumb. They should find the individual who removed the pictures, find out if this is a pattern of behaviour with this individual, and if it is give them a final warning or a pink slip.

Such actions are bad for Facebook in general. It makes them look really unenlightened and stupid.

You go sisters!!!!!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSmit
DKnight seems to be the only one with a modicum of reason and intelligence in this string of posts...but small minds have little else to reflect on, I suppose
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commentertsk
Wow another blog about how a big bad company is hurting breast-feeding moms everywhere *rolls eyes*. I think that its unfair to blame either facebook or Mark Zuckerburg for the removal of the group and/or any photos that the website has removed. They have terms of service which, on signing up for the website "you" have to agree to. If the company gets complaints about an image or a group they have the RIGHT to remove it, plain and simple. If you don't like it, don't use it... sucks when that logic is used on the other side doesn't it? I HIGHLY doubt that Mr. Zuckerburg, who is president and CEO of a multi-billion dollar company personally trolls around his site to remove pictures of breast-feeding women... chances are he knew nothing about the incident. He HIRES people, whose job it is to deal with complaints... and in this circumstance someone complained. A site with as many users as facebook relies on complaints to remove material that is inappropriate... there is no way of scanning everything that EVERY user posts every second of every day. A lot of people responding to this blog have felt that there is other more inappropriate material on facebook... if you feel that way... do something about it and report it. That is how content gets removed! As for all the unrelated garble regarding women breast feeding in public... I don't mind if the woman is respectful, covers up and if asked politely to move or stop because they are upsetting another patron or person to do so. I have a really bad gag reflex that is set off by seeing a baby breastfeeding... I'm fine if there is a blanket in place but otherwise I throw up. I can't help it and I'm not trying to be rude... its just the way I am. There have been circumstances where I felt that breastfeeding moms were extremely selfish and rude to me. Once in my own home, when I had an "adult-only" dinner party and a friend of mine brought not only his girlfriend (who I did not know very well) and their infant. In the middle of dinner the girlfriend decides it time to breast feed and whips out her breasts and feeds the baby at the table. I start to gag, and my boyfriend, asks politely to either wait until later or go into our bedroom... she refuses and says that if I don't like it, I shouldn't look. This incident destroyed my friendship with her partner and I still can't believe her self-intitlement in my own home. Another time on an airplane... I had the misfortune of sitting next to a mom, toddler and infant. As it was a long flight, I tried to avoid contact with the mom and kids because I am not overly fond of children, I put my headphones in and watch a movie on the screen provided to me by the airline. The mom glances over at the movie I am watching (Going the Distance) and decides that it is inappropriate for her darling babies to catch sight of... so she pulls my earphone out of my ear and tells me that I am corrupting her children. As I don't want to get into an argument with her, I switch the movie for kids movie.... she then takes out her breast and starts nursing the infant... which, I ask very politely if she would mind covering up or going to the bathroom as I was gagging very badly. She then tells me off, saying that its her right to breast feed where she wants and I'm a horrible person... and the ever popular "If you don't like it, don't watch". So I ran to the bathroom, threw up... and hid there (poking my head out occasionally to see if she's done before I return to my seat. I then flip back on Going the Distance and when she complains again... I tell her that if she doesn't like it... don't watch it. So again I reiterate.. if you don't like facebook's TOS don't use the site.. there are tons of social networking sites just find a different one!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKitKat
Yet people do not care about the pictures advertising at lingerie storefronts. Or what about 14 year olds with there whole breast practically exposed? How odd.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAlicia
I need to interject here, not on the subject of breastfeeding but with Gary's thoughts on the Bible. The Bible is a book that tells us what God is like and what people are like. It tells stories of dirt, filth and immorality (his words) because that's what people are, just look around you and you don't have to go far to find it. It talks about real people. I agree that breastfeeding is the way God made us to nourish our children and I'm not sure where DKnight is coming from, sounds like he or she is just trying to stir everybody up. If everyone would think of others before themselves, we'd all be better off, wouldn't we?
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterOakey
Much ado about nothing. How is this even a news story? Is this what we've come to?
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterdkglhgsdgh
I have breastfed 4 children. Do I need to talk about it or post pictures of it on Facebook? NO! Get over yourselves people. I don't want to see pictures of anyone's boobs either.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMom of 4
@ KitKat... BRAVO! LOL! Loved your response to the self important woman next to you on the plane. Well done. :)
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterEDK
KitKat, how do you think that our population survived and grew to the size it is before formula companies started pumping "fake" milk into our children for a profit? Hmmm? Any idea? Oh yeah they breastfed!!!! Because that is the "normal" way to feed a baby. Not with a bottle! I'm assuming you were never breastfed? or nurtured by your mother and I assume you if or when you have children you will be filling their bodies up with the chemical compounds known as formula? What a shame. You'd be missing out on probably one of the most amazing experiences of your life.

Breastfeeding isn't about whipping out a boob and giving your child a drink. It is about bonding, nurturing and giving your child the food that was designed for them and only them. Contact between a mother and baby at the breast does more then just feed them, it hard wires their brains for security and love. When babies are born that contact normalizes their blood sugars, heart rate and respiration. Without it premies would waste away, newborns would cry constantly. Breastfeeding protects women against cancers of the breast and cervix. It protects babies against asthma, diabetes and it makes them smart! (or formula makes them not smart there is still debate on that)

So gag away if you must, but if it was a choice between your discomfort and all the other benefits, I'd choose seeing you gag till you puked.

January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDoulaKim
Remove a facebook page about breastfeeding , but it's okay for teenagers to show there privates and open slutty groups and what not. This makes me sick.

January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterK
No I don't think breastfeeding pictures are inappropriate in any way. If the pictures make some people feel uncomfortable, turn away and stop staring then. On the topic of inappropriate behaviour how about when a complete stranger comments negatively at the sight of a baby being feed and comforted in a public place. "Well your sure trying to a statement now aren't You!Actually that might be true. The statement being Best Practice for Baby and Mom.So MYOB

January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCJ
Hey Doulamom, I am a mother of two and have FORMULA fed both of my babies. If you really are a doula, then shame on you!!!! YOU should know that not ALL mothers are physically able to breast feed. Therefore have no other choice BUT to formula feed. Yes, maybe breast feeding was the only way to feed your child way back when but times have changed and so have traditions. YOU are on a computer, I am pretty sure people weren't commenting on breast feeding issues when breast milk was the only option for a infant. Wake up, people need formula. You should realize that not being able to breast feed is very hard for mothers, and we do NOT need ignorant people like you to rub it in our face.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMother of two
To Pam having a problem with my logic... People urinate in public washrooms all the time. the difference is they do it in as private of manner as possible. No one is arguing that breastfeeding is the best health choice for a mother and baby. The argument is whether or not some amount of decency should be practiced during the act. Facebook is open to anyone 13 years of age or older, from almost anywhere in the world. There are cultures where even the tiniest amount of exposed breast is completely unacceptable. Facebook has a responsibility to protect the rights of EVERY person that is able to access it. One society's viewpoint cannot be held as the ruling body. Sometimes you have to look a little further than your own nose.

As for the more recent comment about discrimination against breastfeeding mothers, I don't see how that applies to posting photos on Facebook. Mothers on Facebook aren't being told they can't breastfeed their children, they're being told they can't post photos of their bare breasts on the site. What exactly does a photo of some other woman breastfeeding do for anyone, anyway??
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKen
@KitKat, I just had to say that I should never have to feed my child in the bathroom. Do you eat your dinner in the bathroom? I don't think so. Not to mention, airplane bathrooms are so tiny and sometimes you need more space to breastfeed. My son HATES being covered up and just pulls any attempt I make off, screaming until he is free of a blanket. I understand that. I don't eat with a blanket on my head so why should he? Maybe I find someone's obnoxious chewing and eating with their mouth open disgusting (I do actually), but I don't ask them to cover up or stop. Do you really want the alternative of a screaming, hungry baby? Get over yourself. I'm sure this woman who "whipped out her boob" did it fairly discretely and unless you were staring at her I doubt you would have seen any more boob than you see in a Victoria Secret ad. Now this woman may not have responded to you in the best manner regarding the movie and whatnot, but many women get a lot of flack for breastfeeding in public so many have built up defenses. As for your friend's gf who fed her child at the table, that perhaps was not the best place for her to do so. She could have gone to the couch or something. There's not usually "waiting until later" to feed an infant. When you're hungry, you go eat, so why can't the child?

As for FB, I don't think it was right for them to take the page down. There is so much worse out there.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSarah
BRAVO KEN...COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER!!!!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMom of 4
Pages like this are important! No one understands breastfeeding like mothers that are/have been breastfeeding. It is a beautiful thing and should be shared. If you don't want to look at breastfeeding babies - don't look at the group page. It's that easy!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSandra
@DoulaKim How DARE you talk about my mother... and for your information... I was bottle fed for the same gag reflex, I couldn't be breast fed. I am perfectly healthy, I have no allergies or any health related issues from being bottle fed. In fact I am healthier than my sister who was breast fed so in my opinion and in my experience breast feeding is not the best way of feeding a child... it is one way. My mother and I are extremely close (closer than the same sister who was breastfed) and we have a very healthy relationship so your opinions are not fact. For every example of breast feeding being better, there is a case for bottle being just as good. As for children, and this might shock you, I don't want them... I don't like children and have no desire to have them. I don't mind breast-feeding, if the person is discreet, and on the plane, the woman hit me in the head and arm (hard) preparing to breastfeed... I think I was not out of line. Next time would you have me throw up on the mother and child? I think next time I will... because of self righteous people like you!
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKitKat
@Sarah if your son has the choice of being covered by a blanket or covered in someone else's throw up... I am shocked that you would choose throw up... if you are so concerned with your baby's health and sanitation. If the process is as quick and discreet as you say... then slipping a blanket over so I can't see shouldn't be a problem. I looked over only because she hit me in the head and arm preparing to breast feed... if you get hit... don't you look at who hit you or why it happened?
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKitKat
I don't think it's a case of Facebook hating Breastfeeding, I think it has a little more to do with graphic imagery. Yes, I realise that people, especially people who are advocating breastfeeding think this is a terrible thing (the censorship of certain photographs) - but I honestly think that on a site like Facebook, it's entirely appropriate to not show all the content. I was a breastfeeding mother who took pride in that - I breastfed in public, I nursed whereever my heart desired - what I didnt do though, was snap pictures of these most intimate moments and put them up on the internet for people to look at, nor do I want to see other peoples intimate, graphic, up close photographs of such things. If people need to see this, then everyone else who needs to see other graphic imagery that they consider necessary should all be allowed to, no? It's up to the people who run these sites to decide.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterek
Oh, and BINGO Ken - that was what I was trying to get at in my own way.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterek
KitKat, you'll have to excuse DOULAKIM and the other self-important mothers on this blog for their ignorance. There must be some chemical transformation in the brain that occurs upon parenthood, causing them to believe that the world subsequently revolves around them and their children, and that notions of modesty and respect for other's rights no longer apply to them. Like you, I couldn't be breastfed. Oddly enough, this didn't seem to affect my relationship with my mother as she is one of my closest confidants. Also shocking (@ DOULAKIM), was my ability to earn two university degrees, despite my "dumbing down" by formula. (Frankly, I believe what's most detrimental to the normal, healthy development of a child is an ignorant parent.)
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commentertsk
@tsk way to go. 1 degree is hard enough to earn 2 ( or more ) takes dedication and determination as well as smarts.@doulakim both my children were formula fed. Neither one is dumbed down infact my oldest has skipped a grade and my youngest tested last year in the top ten percentile for all grade 2 kids in Canada overall. (top 5 in reading and reading comprehension)As for the article, I went to the site and looked at the pics. All of 792 of them and while most were perfectly normal pics (about half weren't even breast feeding shots at all) a few were a little messed up. The one of the mom drinking what appears to be a beer is the most disturbing. I'm not sure what or why FB was all bent about, but I can say I tried to report that pic and my options as to what to report it as left me limited. FB only gives you a few options as to what to catagorize your complaint as. My best guess as to the actual problem is that people who complained didn't have the correct option availible and chose the button closest to what they felt was the real problem. In this case graphic or pornigraphic material. This could be easily remidied by adding a place to actually write your complaint.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commentermiikka
Just to clarify I meant the closest button to their issue may be graphic/pornographic material. Not that the pics actually were pornographic
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered Commentermiikka
The biggest question on my mind here is do they really think we believe that they are solely responding to facebook complaints and deleting without examining the contents? That's seriously disturbing.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSB
@ tsk... thank you! I am constantly astonished by how some parents behave. Calling out someone's mother is completely out of line. As for her point about formula making babies less intelligent... I should really let my graduate supervisor know! I'm actually in one of the most competitive graduate programs in the country and they should be aware that they let a less intelligent formula-fed person in! Good grief, for all the people out their who advocate for breast-feeders right to breast feed anywhere... a lot of people make themselves sound just as cruel as they accuse someone (like myself) who advocates for modesty of being.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKitKat
Breast feeding should be kept personal. When your walking down the street it is inapropriate for a woman to expose her breasts in a public place for people to view even if it is to feed a child. Same thing goes here in the cyber world where the public can view.

FaceBook is a family friendly site and Leaky B@@BS should remain shutdown.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterFayeKhnaim
To the people complaining about the breastfeeding photos/groups being removed from Facebook while other just as/more/not even remotely the same obscene photos/groups remain, you are complaining in the wrong place. Report the offensive content to Facebook through the proper channels, and it will be reviewed against the Terms of Use and be removed if deemed in violation of those Terms of Use. Complaining about it here serves absolutely no purpose. If you think someone at Facebook personally checkes every single thing posted to it's servers, then you need to pack up your computer and lock it away. The internet is unsafe for a person of your level of ignorance. Complain to the people who need to hear it, not us.
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKen
Some people get so worked up about things... Gosh. Where I live, women have the RIGHT to walk around topless. OUTSIDE. Seriously -no word of a lie. Do I do it? No, but that's only cause there's not much to show. Lol.

As a mother who has breastfed, I agree that you should be able do it in public with no fuss. I would prefer someone use a recieving blanket though. It's just natural to stare at someone when they have their shirts open... Maybe people feel guilty about that and that's the reason they don't want to see women breastfeed in public?? Are we feeling guilty for desiring the "Madonna"? Just a thought.

But seriously facebook... I saw a picture of a girl's yahoo the other day, plain for everyone to see (imagine my surprise when I was looking through her pictures). Are you really taking down a picture of a woman nursing, when the breast is barely exposed?
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTashey
I thought this was about Facebook allowing the pictures, not a debate on whether or not breastfeeding is best....?

I understand what people are saying in defense of facebooks decision, but really, come on, taking down the breastfeeding photos seems ironic, and at very least, a drop in the bucket when it comes to the "indecency" on facebook. You log on to facebook, and if your in a certain age bracket, or relationship status, the ads are all half naked women for dating sites, or some woman with low self esteem pouting at you trying to sell you some make up. Let alone some of the other groups. Seriously, why not take down ones like "Womans Xbox" or whatever... I'd personally much rather be exposed to a woman breastfeeding her chilld then the other garbage they no only allow, but promote on facebook. And really, why not just not look up breastfeeding, or go to the pages/groups where you have to voluntarily click to see the pictures if you dont want to see someone breastfeeding, and allow the people who need them as a resource to use them as such. To me it seems that simple. Thats just my opinion. I'm also of the opinion that when people start making personal attacks on strangers over message boards need to pick up a book or something..
January 5, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterHails

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