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Monday
Sep132010

Nursing Doesn't Have to Be Undercover

I hope I don’t make anyone uncomfortable when I look over at a woman nursing. I just think that a breastfeeding mom is one of the most beautiful sights in the world. And if they are in full public view, all the better.


It is a woman’s right to nurse anywhere: public pools, restaurants, stores, the dinner table; it doesn't matter that it makes some people feel uncomfortable. They have the choice not to look. 

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I know people feel differently than me, they think women should cover up and be “discreet”. They should throw a blanket or something over the baby. I disagree. I don’t think women need nursing covers – Hooter Hiders or otherwise. A baby shouldn’t have to nurse under a tent; the covers are cumbersome and hot and the cheesy patterns can be so childish it is like they are trying to infantilize the mother in order to de-sexualize their breasts. Covers also draws attention to what you are trying to hide.


I understand that for some women a nursing cover provides them with the comfort they need to nurse in public and that makes them a necessity. It may be Pollyanna-ish of me but I think the world would be a better place if women didn’t feel that way.


There is definitely a double-standard when it comes to exposed breasts in our culture. Ironically, the most public view of a woman nursing a baby is on a formula commercial. Facebook notoriously takes down pictures of nursing moms and there have been a few public instances of women being asked to cover up or leave public areas for nursing (even though public breastfeeding is covered by the Charter). Many of the outfits from last weekend’s MTV Video Music awards show more breast than most women do while nursing.


An article in the Globe and Mail posed the question do you think nursing women should have to cover up in public and the responses were predictably polarized. Many commenters asked nursing women to be discreet. I have never seen a nursing mother be anything less than discreet but some breast may be exposed during the feeding of a child. Check out PhDinParenting’s thoughts on what discreet really means. Most nursing moms are trying to feed their babies not flaunt their breasts.istockBF2


This issue is not about bottle feeding vs. breastfeeding it is about how society treats something that is competely natural and life-sustaining. I struggled with breastfeeding and formula-fed one child, and breast-fed two others. Once I was able to nurse, I didn’t care what people thought because I wasn't thinking about other people's comfort levels, I was thinking about feeding my child. I became used to people staring: some in admiration and some with disgust. Most of them were not as discreet as me, though.


What do you think, should nursing women cover up?


Photo Credit: istock

Reader Comments (200)

I would want to cover up myself, but I think that is a personal thing based on the mom's comfort, and I suspect that after a while, it becomes such second nature to be feeding your child and becomes faster and easier to get a latch, so that covering would feel less necessary to finding that degree of comfort. (I bottle fed expressed milk myself, so this wasn't something I had to sort out in the end.)

As to other moms feeding? You know, I am a touch uncomfy about looking, but I also think that again, that's my problem, not hers. She is doing something natural and essential, and the thing of it is that I neither want that other mom to think I'm staring, nor to think I am put off, so I'm a little uncomfy that way. Again, not her concern, but mine to sort out the right balance of ignore vs acknowledge. (Then again, there's also just the issue of my being a tad uncomfy with public flesh - I wish men would keep their shirts on, too - it's weird talking to your neighbour who is half-naked!)
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterkittenpie
I think that it is disgraceful that we are more comfortable with nudity when it is sexual but not when it is not like when a mother is breast feeding her child.
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterangie
if your breast feeding in public, i'll look. if you don't like that or are unconfortable with it, cover up or gtfo
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
I am not a mother but I am going to go with no.

I don't have to cover up when I am eating...so why should a baby have to be covered up while he/she is eating????
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAnika
If a mother is planning on going out in public is there not a way for them to extract their milk so that they do not have to expose themselves. Not everyone wants to see that and even though it is natural some people find it offensive. Going to the toilet is natural too but we take that behind closed doors. Why don't we allow people to pee and poo wherever they want as well?
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJames
So since "natural" is the comment...so is sex between a man and a woman...they should be allowed to do that in public too! Heck if it bothers you then don't look!!!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterK
Wow, it never fails to amaze me how often this tired old horse gets trotted out. Yes, women have the right to breastfeed wherever, whenever, however they want. Yes it is essential, Yes it is natural, and more and more evidence points to breastfeeding being a healthier route altogether. I am a women, and I am comfortable with nudity in many different forms, where it is appropriate the human body is a beautiful thing. I think, however, that anywhere a man would not take off his shirt (Non beach side restaraunts, malls, etc) a modest woman would not want to breastfeed uncovered. To me, women who flaunt breastfeeding in public are putting themselves on display and that is not appropriate any more than the "outfits" (if you can call them that) worn at the MTV awards. It is particularly irksome when women breastfeed without covers at restaraunts. To me this is an intimate time of bonding between mother and child, not something I need or want to be privy to during my dining experience.
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSRSLY
James and K,

Extracting wastes and having sex can not be compared to FEEDING A BABY!

James-if it is that important to you to s*&t in public, then by all means....











September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAnika
I totally agree with Anika's comment about not covering up while eating in public, my exact thought! And James, why should a woman have to put her milk in a bottle and cause confusion for her baby with feeding, you ever tried to breastfeed your baby after giving him/her a bottle? Doesn't work very well they get what's called nipple confusion. If a woman breastfeeding is so wrong then why is the female body designed to do it then?! It is not nudity in any form, she has her nipple in the babies mouth she is not out flaunting it. I think the one's who get most offended by it are when women with small breasts see a female with big breast breastfeeding her baby in public:) Men if you don't like it too bad, when you can have a baby and breastfeed then you can talk about it!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLisa
@Anika

wastes what? why can't a nursing mother use a bottle if she insists on feed her child in public?
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
@ Lisanipple confusion is the lazy answer to the issue. an infant is capable of learning both breast and bottle feeding techniques.
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
I would not expect anyone to hide underneath a tent in order to dine, why should an infant have to? Breast feeding is an absolute natural occurrance for mammals(hence why we are mammals) and should not be viewed as anything otherwise. Those individuals with problems with it, are just that, individuals with problems. Maybe their mom's weren't able to or chose not to feed them the natural way, it is unfortunate that in this day that people still harbour negativity toward natural functional acts. You would not condemn a cat or dog from breast feeding their young. People should not be so anal about this. Get over it already. God gave us tits, lets use them for their intended purpose already!!!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMargarita
@Margaritamost mammals also copulate infront of their young. i suppose thats acceptable too (according to you)
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
No, I don't want to see breasfeeding. It puts me off my dinner! Too much of the farmyard. Cover it up or stay home. Yanking out a boob in public and hanging a brat off it is too much bad taste and makes many people gag at the thought of it, me included Some things should be private, throw a scarf over the whole thing!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSandy
Right on James! It's just nice when a mother covers up a little and why would she expose her whole breast anyways, so she is proud of it and wants someone to look at maybe how big she is. There is a lot of truth to that, and what does a man know anyways?! He wants to breast at any time!!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSally
Its only acceptable with hot women. Ugly fat indian chugs can do it on their reserve cause thats fucking disgusting.... another thing in a resturant use some common sense i dont wanna think bout ur swelled up tities while im eating foo cause then i get a visual of ur bod. GOD DAMN IT WERE NOT INDIANS OR FUR TRADERS WERE "2010" PEOPLE!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterHitler
SRSLY, I like the way you put that! Outfits on MTV, that's funny! When I see a mother (decent one) breastfeeding, she is covered up. The other mothers just put it out there for show!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSally
I moved to Spain almost 2 years ago now and it is common place here to breast feed children wherever and whenever the need arises. Sure that most beaches in Europe are topless and especially in Spain but keep in mind that I said it is "common place".

I was on a Subway train the other day and it was packed with people during rush hour heading home from work or wherever they happened to be coming from. A woman removed her child from the carrier that her husband had on and started to breast feed her child. Not one person remarked, was shocked, or even acknowledged the fact that she just bared her breast to feed her child.

Like so many things in existence, those that people are not accustomed to are bound to be stared at. Remember the first time you saw a colored person, or the first time you heard someone speaking a different language, and you just couldn't help but stare, or be amazed, and some even repulsed over what was happening? But in today's society, no one even gives it a second thought. Why should it be any different for a woman to feed her child.

Breasts are not a part of a woman's genitalia and I say if she wants to feed her child, and the child is hungry, so be it. Humans were completely bare before clothes were even invented. A few short seconds and the baby has his/her mouth covering what so many say should be covered up in the first place.

Let the mother's feed and worry about what really matters in the world. Breast feeding is no more unnatural than waking up in the morning and going for breakfast. Leave it be....
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterGord Smyth
WElll Maury just told me im not the father so cover that shit upp
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMario
great work author, you've brought out the hitler in everyone with your crappy article
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
This is ridiculous, just cause something is natural doesn't make it public! think about sex, just cause it's natural doesn't mean that couple should do it in front of you in the bus or in the grocery store. Poop is natural and I'm not gonna do it in front of you!

Get some brain before you decide to write something you think is smart.
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMe
o yeah, that's smart, sex and feeding a baby are not the same! duh! of course not, just the little detail that feeding a baby involves a breast, not a fork!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMe
Wow, I cannot believe the immaturity of some of the comments here! How dare any comparisons be made to the sexual nature of human beings. Two totally different aspects. Really all it comes down to is, if you don't like it, don't look at it! For some women it's just easier to lift up a shirt and feed the baby. A blanket may not always be handy or may take too long to dig out of a diaper bag. Some women are just more comfortable with their woman/motherhood and don't care to use a blanket at all. While I am not one of these women (I will always cover myself with a blanket) I don't see any wrong in it whatsoever! Every human on this earth has to eat! Baby, teenager or adult! Breasfeeding is a way of nature and life and is definately not going anywhere as long as we reside this earth, so I think everyone out there who has a problem with it should just put on their big girl panties, and suck it up! You once were a breastfeeding baby! Get over it! Look the other way, and get on with your lives!
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterlulu
@ lului don't see why ppl should have to deal with the issue of breast feeding because "it's just easier to lift up a shirt" Just because you 'can' doesn't mean you should, especially when there are more acceptable alternatives - like using a BOTTLE
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
@ Gord Smythif there's a coffee shop that lets me eat my breakfest off some chicks rack in public, point me the way
September 14, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
@ Doesn't Care- I don't see why a mother should have to alter the way she raises and tends to her infant child because someone else finds it "unacceptable". Again, if it bothers you this much turn your head away!
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterlulu
@luluhow is using a bottle altering the way an infant is tended to??the only thing i find unacceptable is your lack of logic
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
Breast feeding a child is different than sex in public and if people can not seperate the two then there is something very wrong with them.mother feeding a baby is not incest plain and simple, it takes a sick mind to think breast feeding is a sexual act.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterles
I am a breastfeeding mother and let me tell you, the only reason i don't breastfeed in public is because of some of the pigs and perverts on this comment page. There is nothing sexual about breastfeeding, it's survival for our baby, instinctual, and how can you even compare it to going to the bathroom in public....are you insane?? How would you feel if your digestive system was still developing and you were starving and had to wait until you were in the privacy of your own home to eat? Depending on where you were and what you were doing that could be hours.

We as adults have the luxury of eating as soon as we are hungry and do not have to depend on anyone to take care of that need for us. We also have the luxury of being able to wait it out or drink water to hold it over....well news flash einsteins a baby does not. Most babies can only go 3 hours between feedings and their milk is their food and water. The ignorance of some of these people is unreal!! Thank god not everyone can have children!
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterPam
God, it must be tiresome to be so ignorant. Imagine all the ways conversations must go over the head of some of these posters; I can imagine it's very frustrating to be so close-minded and repressed. My condolences to the ignorant.

With respect to breastfeeding in public, I don't really give a rat's ass if you're offended. That's the great thing about this country: I get to feed my baby however I want and you're free to feel as offended as you like. Both of those rights are protected under the Charter of Rights and Freedoms, and breastfeeding in public is further codified under many (all?) provincial laws.

As for the oft-touted "be discreet!" - yeah, no. New mothers need time to learn how to breastfeed and babies need to learn how to extract milk efficiently. Sometimes that means the mother needs a bit of practice learning how to latch on before she can do the quick pop-on that older mothers are capable of. Sometimes babies are distractible or sleepy and don't stay latched. Regardless, it's not the mother's responsibility to protect the delicate sensibilities of those around her.

Breastfeeding is a baby's birthright. It's been proven in scores of studies that breastfed children, as a population group, fare better through infancy and beyond. Sometimes, it's not possible for the mother to learn how to breastfeed; that situation should be respected and sympathized with. (A true medical inability to breastfeed occurs in less than 4% of the population, however bad advice and lack of support often convince mothers to give up breastfeeding early.)

My youngest child is now 11 and I treasure the years we spent nursing. (Yes, I said years - I can only imagine the horror going through the mind of some of these commenters!)

This issue boils down to a very simple principle: respect. Breastfeeding mothers are making the very best choice for their children and as such, should be afforded every opportunity to further that practice.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRevvie
I think it's gross...I do'nt wanna see that in public. I look away though. I would NEVER say anything, because I'm not a mother, so I don't know what it's like. but I still think it's gross.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered Commenternot cool
@Revvieanother great thing about this country is under the charter for freedom of information, i could walk up to you in the middle of your breast feeding and take all the pictures i want of you. i bet those would fetch a pretty penny, especally with how easy and fun photoshop makes things!!
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
I am surprized that there are still idiots in this world that are offended by the sight of a breast-feeding mother and her baby. You see the tiniest bit of breast, and only if you look hard enough. Do you get as upset over a man who is shirtless in public? Or women with a bit of cleavage, that show a heck of a lot more than a feeding mother? I very much doubt that you do.

This shouldn't even be an issue. Grow up.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoireann
@Doesn't Care:

It would be swell if you could actually, I dunno, wiki the laws you so fervently promote.



FOI (freedom of information) law does not apply to your rights to publish photographs. FOI came into effect under the Trudeau governance in order to enable the publich to access federal records. It has nothing to do with your right to take or publish photographs. What you are actually referring to is copyright law.



So under copyright law, you are free to take and post pictures of nearly everything. (Some things are excluded, such as military installations and private homes, among others.) However, it's important to note that copyright law does not prevent you from being sued for libel or slander. The website www.ambientlight.ca (which is a site that explains Canadian law as it applies to photographers) provides the following clarification:



"If a photograph you take is published, which you have a fundamental right to do, you must be careful not to misrepresent or injure the reputation of people or property which were photographed. This can be done by editing the photo to alter the situation, or adding an incorrect or misleading caption."



It also goes on to way, " ... the private citizen or company may also choose to sue you for the damages you caused. Note that damage may not necessarily be to property, but may also be to public reputation".



Now, personally, I couldn't care less if you wanted to photoshop a picture of me breastfeeding my child. Intelligent and rational people will see your hackjob for the bs it is. Less enlightened folk may have a conniption (or think it's hilarious) but I don't put much stock in the opinions of those who would mock or seek to restrick the fundamental rights we hold in this county.



So - feel free. Once I have another child, would you like me to text you where I'm going to be so you can break out the SLR?
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRevvie
What would a breastfeeding mother would say if i looked at her feeding her baby? it is the best site in the world !
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterpaul
Thankfully it doesn't matter one bit what people think because the lawmakers of this country say it's our right. I'm always discreet to be respectful of anyone who is uncomfortable with breasts, but I absolutley stand by the right to breastfeed anywhere! First reason pumping is expensive for the machines and manual expressing is so time consuming, it could take hours to express enough for a feeding not to mention painful. Second is storage of the milk and reheating of the milk, then waiting for it to cool to the correct temp. These people would be the first to complain about a screaming baby who's hungry disturbing THEIR precious meal. Luckily humankind historically never felt this way or we would cease to exist as formula and bottles are a fairly recent invention. If you go to the beach half the men there have breasts as large as mine and no one asks them to cover up and their breasts are useless. You could say breastfeeding is Mother Nature's or God's design so what's so wrong with that. Breastfed babies are known to have a higher IQ and I can see some posters (particularily 'Doesn't care') who were clearly never breastfed. The posters who dare compare breasfeeding a dependant little baby with sex or toilet functions are clearly disturbed.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterColleen
The purpose of our breasts is to feed our babies, they are not just toys for the big boys!
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSharron Smith
@ Doesn't Care:



This topic was nagging at me, so I went a bit farther in research.



In 1998, the Supreme Court of Canada ruled on a Québec case that had been brought through the Québec justice system, the Court of Appeals and finally the SCC.



The SCC ruled that "(there is) an infringement of the person's right to (privacy)...as soon as the image is published without consent and enables the person to be identified." An excerpt from a blog on the subject:



"The Court also rejected the notion that the right to publish a photograph ought to be given precedence over the individual's right to remain private due to the logistical difficulties in obtaining consent:



" 'to accept such an exception would, in fact, amount to accepting the photographer's right is unlimited, provided that the photograph is taken in a public place, thereby extending the photographer's freedom at the expense of others. We reject this point of view. In (this) case, (Aubrey's) right to protection of her image is more important than the (photographer's) right to publish the photograph...without first obtaining her permission.' "



So as you can see, taking a photo of someone in a public setting and publishing it without express consent does, in fact, present an invasion of privacy under Canadian law.



Hope you have deep pockets ...
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRevvie
Before I became a mother if I saw a nursing mom I would look away, embarrassed. When my child was born premature I opted for nursing him right from the start. I breastfed him until he was 15 months old. Luckily for the most part, the looks I would get would be mostly approval, but there was the odd person who would seem repulsed. For my own privacy I would use a blanket to cover up in public, but I think it should remain a mothers right to choose based on her own comfort level. Until you become a mother I think it is difficult to appreciate how natural and unsexual breastfeeding is. I cannot imagine having to fumble around with bottles and warming formula, etc when your baby is screaming for food. I truly feel bad for mothers who choose to formula feed. If you only knew there was an easier way !!!
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLisa
Of course breastfeeding is best, however, I do object to the defiance of those mothers who do not respect where and how it's done in public. It is such a personal thing. On the other hand if you see a situation that offends you, you don't have to stare; you can be sure that someone who is offended will say something.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterPat Cusack
@ Pat Cusack:



Out of curiousity, can you name some situations you personally witnessed where you felt a nursing mother was being defiant and disrespectful?
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRevvie
If people think its terrible to see someone breastfeeding their child in public, then I wish to remind you that eating in public can be terrible too...manners people.

breatfeeding my daughter is the best feeling in the entire world, and I'm sad that she is now 2 and doesnt need them anymore. To all mothers, go ahead, and if someone complains, tell them they need to be the one to leave the area as they are bothering us
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterterry sullivan
The stupidity of comments like " The purpose of our breasts is to feed our babies, they are not just toys for the big boys!" insults the serious nature of the debate. It's like saying "Why look at my rear end, because it's only used for bowel movements".Society as a whole has spent tens of thousands of years emphasizing beauty, and more importantly the beauty of the female body as it pertains to sex and male attraction. It has been morphed from it's ape-like plant browsing humble beginnings to a multi million dollar planet turning industry. Just try to tell a marketing agent that an overtly exposed breast on a sultry brunette will NOT sell a product. Then ask why? You cannot evade the obvious by stating a rudimentary mouth breathing over simplification. Why look at a womens legs, they are just used for walking? Why look at mans chest, it only houses his lungs?Breast feeding a child is the most natural thing in the world, but human nature was left far behind when we developed laws as a society. Many things we enjoyed as simple cave dwellers are now lost to us.Urinating is a very natural act, I don't want to see it in public.



September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterPagan
As a breastfeeding mum of a seven month old, I believe that it is perfectly acceptable for me to feed my daughter in public. What is not acceptable is the rude stares, the tuts, and comments that people make to me about it not being the place for such thing. If it bothers you to see me nurse my daughter, don't look. If you don't like that my daughter is eating where we all eat, then you can go eat in the bathroom where they've set up a "nursing station" (a stall with a plastic, armless chair). I feed her discretely, making sure that the shirt i'm wearing covers most of the breast and my daughter's head does the rest. I will never apologize for feeding her the way I feel is best for her, nor will I apologize for taking her out in public with me when I need to get out of the house.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterIsabelle
I didn't breast feed my son because I was appaled by women feeding their child in public. Have some class and cover up. Blah blah its natural but I think women do it because they think its beautiful. PDA is not acceptable, so go to another room and feel free.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered Commentersuzy q
@Revvie

I'm impressed - that you can copy and paste info from a website that has the most simplistic understanding of said charter/law/court case etc... rather then get off topic, i'll simply except your invitation to snap some pics of you breast feeding your 11-year-old so that you may experience the faults of your own arrogance first hand.

now, your thin and vague understandings aside, the fact that you would willing subject people in public places to your filthy bodily functions shows a greater ignorance above all else that has been argued here. We no longer live in some stone age where breast feeding is the only way to go. The only thing all those mothers who breast feed and blatantly ignore more socially friendly alternatives proved, is that breast feeding lowers your IQ. I have yet to see 1 (one) valid reason as to why bottle feeding is such a no no (and don't bother arguing 'nipple confusion'. simply put, nipple confusion is the mothers laziness at teaching feeding techniques) All you gals know how to do is pull the 'gender card'.

"It's our right as women and as mothers," blah blah blah. Pure weak-sauce.

In the end, that you would perform the act described in the article above with no regards for anyone but yourselves proves your just a whiny little daddy's girl who's illogical view points are somehow justified because shes posting them on the 'internet'.

I also find it quite humorous that you would demand 'respect' for nursing mothers when, said nursing mothers (such as yourself) can't respect those around her by using a cover while feeding her child. Respect is mutual and earned, not handed to or owed.

Now, that meeting place? Or should i go ahead and presume its the manatee tank @ sea world?
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDoesn't Care
@ Pagan:

No-one is disputing the fact that sex sells and that breasts can be sexy (to both men and women, I would add). Human evolution has designed us to respond to sexual stimuli in order to propagate the species.

However, Western society's definition of what is sexual has changed dramatically over the years. It used to be that women were forced into rigid dress standards that prohibited the showing of ankles lest they be considered "loose" or easy. I think you would agree that an ankle is not inherently sexual in and of itself; in that era, an ankle was assigned specific sexual connotation. Similarly, in pre-Victorian society, Rubenesque women were considered the height of beauty; these days, we value a toned and slim body.

In our time, we have become accustomed to viewing breasts as merely sex objects. However, referring back again to the evolution of human species, female breasts were clearly designed to nourish the young of the species. I disagree with you when you say "...nature was left far behind when we developed laws as a society". If that were so, then women's breasts would have adapted and become non-functional for the purpose they were intended. Evolution of the species is dependant on adaptations that ensure the continuation of the species; the fact that women still lactate is irrefutable proof that breastfeeding continues to be the best option for feeding young children.

I'm not going to address your crude comparisons to excretory functions except to say that the examples you list (defecating and urinating) are considered public health hazards due to the germs and disease they carry, and the potential for contaminating public space. Breastmilk is considered a clear fluid by most world health organizations and its potential to harbour disease is nearly neglible. Additionally, breastfeeding does not result in the application of fluids to a public space thereby further refuting your comparison.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRevvie
Breastfeeding is a very natural thing for any woman to do in order to bond with and feed her child. Do you cover up a litter of puppies or kittens that are being nursed? NO. But, having said that, out of personal comfort I have always used a receiving blanket to cover up in public, or even at home but that was for myself. I didn't want anyone to see me exposed, as I'm sure no one else did either. I couldn't care less if a woman is nursing in public but I do think it's in her best interested that while she's latching babe on to her breast she should consider covering up because in my opinion there are far too many perverts out there! Just protect yourself ladies is all I'm saying and nurse your baby all you like. Not long ago I was at a scrapbooking retreat with a few of my sisters and our eldest sis is a total 'boobaphobe'...there was a young mother who was very open and uncovered herself in order to feed her babe and my sister took complete offence. The rest of us where mortified with our sis' behaviour. We didn't see the nursing mom as an issue, yet our oldest sister did. We were all nursed by our mother so what's the difference? Humans are strange little creatures that I'll never understand! But I'm with the autor, nurse away as it's your born right to do so.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterNan
@ Doesn't Care:

Rather than mocking me for possessing half-decent research skills, I would suggest you brush up on your reading comprehension. In your haste to further the argument, you evidently mis-read my very clear wording, which was "Once I have another child ...". That is transparently not a suggestion that I breastfeed an eleven year old pre-teen.



As for the snide remark re: copying and pasting, I would suggest you avail yourself of the opportunities the internet provides for educating yourself. Surely if the quotes I provided are, as you contend, "simplistic" you shoud have little trouble reading them and interpreting for yourself. It's no surprise, though, that the typical response was trotted out instead: belittle, shame and insult. Good luck with that tactic in life.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRevvie
@Doesn't CareYou are a disgusting excuse for a human being. I take it that reading comprehension is not your strong suit? Fine. Your revulsion at the act of FEEDING A BABY is noted. Now go away.I feel very lucky to live in a country that protects my right to feed my child in peace.
September 15, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMichelle

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