Emma Waverman writes about the chaos of modern family life in the kitchen and out of it. She has a weekly food column on CBC Radio One, Here & Now. She is the co-author of the family cookbook Whining and Dining: Mealtime Survival for Picky Eaters and Families Who Love Them and is hoping to one day finish her certification as a parenting coach. She lives with her three kids, ranging from tween to university student, and husband in Toronto. Emma has written for a variety of national lifestyle magazines and newspapers. When she's is not making typos, telling you what she thinks, and thinking about dinner, you can find her on Twitter at @emmawaverman and Instagram. You can contact Emma at embracingchaos@hotmail.ca.

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Nov032010

Bullying, It Gets Better Say Rick Mercer, Mark Tewksbury and Others

If you could tell your younger self something, what would it be? Would it be that everyone feels different sometimes? That it gets better? That sometimes what makes you different will also make you special?


That’s what Dan Savage’s It Gets Better Project is doing. And now a group of Canadian celebrities are joining in to let gay kids know that if they are experiencing bullying it does get better, eventually.


They are using the very medium that has become the weapon of choice of bullies and turning it into a way to reach out to victims to say life gets better.

Bullying used to be fenced in by the schoolyard but now cyberspace is the domain for savvy bullies. The growth of the Internet, a tool that teenagers very often know how to use better than adults, has created a space where bullying can flourish unabated.


The feelings are the same – the hatred and the fear, the abuse of power and the lack of power, the silence and the acquiescence of the bystanders. But the tools are so much more pervasive, powerful and global. It is a wonder that so many people have the bravery to walk out the door, let alone appear on the 'It Gets Better' YouTube channel.


I remember what it was like to be different, to be the bookworm with the dorky glasses and the stringy hair. I remember what it was like to feel alone – I think we all do. But some kids have it much worse, they are routinely tortured in person or online and often both.


I can’t believe how many new and awful ways there are to make a person feel terrible. Bullies start blogs and websites, sign on to anonymous Facebook accounts, go to chat rooms or ‘bash rooms’, create online polls to vote for the ugliest girl in school and much more.


Enter Dan Savage and his ‘It Gets Better’ Project. He was spurred on by the suicides in the United States of two gay men who were victims of bullying. His idea was simple; to send out the message that life gets better, that bullying doesn’t last forever. His video has been joined by thousands of other videos of famous people like President Obama and Adam Lambert and not-so-famous such as the ‘the Gay Muslim teen’. Each person has a unique perspective on what it means to be bullied and their own experience of it getting better. It’s positive and uplifting and is hopefully making some kids feel better knowing that others have walked in their path.


Prominent Canadian lesbians and gay men made this video as part of the ‘It Gets Better’ Project. Celebrities such as Rick Mercer, Anne Marie Macdonald and Mark Tewksbury want gay teens to know that it does get better.









  


Do you have a bullying story you would like to share? Any advice for gay youth today that you'd like pass on?

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Reader Comments (31)

why does it always have to be about 'gay' people. this kinda stuff (bullying) is trans gender. Genderfying (or sexuallly orientating it) it is just reverse discrimination and serves no purpose
November 3, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRon Joseph
People aren't gonna stop cyberbullying/trolling anytime soon. When I had told a few people that being mean on the internet is very unacceptable and makes them look cowardly, they just give me apathetic remarks and tell me "It's all for good fun".

Very pathetic, those people. -_-'
November 3, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKoi Fish
We all get bullied at some time in life. Even the people who appear strong. It is a process that happens when we are younger to help us deal with the more serious realities of life later. Yes maybe it happens more to some but it doesn't really leave anyone immune.

My name being Jay. And I got Jay GAY all my young life. I went to many schools where I felt I had to fit in and I guess I had a unique way of looking at life that made me a target.

I am strong, I am good, and I made the choice to overcome those small obstacles. That is what makes me a survivor.

Teach our strong children to respect and protect those that are weaker. Dont teach the weaker that that it is a right. Every once in a while we have to stand on our own.

And we all have something in us that helps us move forward.

Do you really think that Bill Gates didn't get bullied. Who's the boss now.

Bullying isn't always about being gay. How about having a weight problem? Or being extremely skinny? Bullys pick on the weak. Always have and always will. I always told my kids that as much as it sucked to be bullyed while in high school, surviving is what creates strong and interesting people. Great authors came from childhood bullying. Great song writers were bullied. It's the bullys that come across as losers at the 10-year high school reunion. Both my kids now are strong people but also kind towards others and what they have to go through.



November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCHERUNGER
BULLYING is never going 2 be over, ever!! ... We have bullies at work too, in personal relationships, in all aspects of life. It doesn't just happen in schools... It is so sad because we advocate anti-bully campaigns and such as adults but don't realize or are aware that our behavior is an example for our youths today and as an adult that has and do experience bullying at times it is so hypocritical. We as adults a lot of times are a very bad example for kids because there are parents out there that are bullies themselves to their kids; very controllin, judgemental, critical, dominating, argumentative and such with their kids and that is what children have as examples or parents that have anger management issues and take it out on their kids or who ever... It is a circle... Yes, sure we can call ourselves adults but we behave like children ourselves a lot... It is unacceptable no matter what age.. In work, U have ur cliques and groups that talk about eachother and behave like they are better, anything like that and it does happen and we all know it...Or bosses that talk down to U, it plays with ur mind as an adult because ppl will talk down to U or talk to U in a certain way that disrespects U and U feel that but are not sure sometimes if they are indeed disrespecting U or not but it hurts... U go home and those feelings linger, we are all not stone cold and have no feelings and it does affect some of us even at workplaces... I find a lot of ppl do not like going to work sometimes for that reason, the tension they feel, the re-pulsive feelings of having to see certain work bullies.... It is disgusting!! Anyways to just sum up, Us adults are the example and if anything we have to teach children it is unacceptable but we also have to behave in that matter too... It is like telling ur child "don't swear, it is bad" and then goin off and swearing at ur husband or wife.... What is goin on?? Thoughts anyone..... U don't have to tear someone else apart or demean them to feel good about urself... Think ppl....!! Btw I am not sayin everyone but a lot of ppl.... *muah*FOOD FOR THOUGHT PEOPLE!!!







November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJaclyn
I was bullied as a young child myself. I had no one to go to because my parents were recent settled Europeans and wouldn't understand. The truth is that it did make me stronger in many ways. I am more considerate of others and appreciate the smaller things in life because of what happened to me as a child growing up. I now teach my children to stand up for themselves and if they see something wrong, to speak up. They too have experienced bullying in school, but I put a stop to it as soon as I heard about it.

I was always the weaker child and people saw right through my vulnerabilities and enjoyed torturing me. When I look at those people now, I see the same cowards from years ago. I progressed and percerviered in all my goals for life and they got stuck with dead end jobs and a miserable life. I guess they bully people because they have no idea who they are.....
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLizzy
I agree with Jaclyn that bullying exists in our lives as adults. I've experienced this at work and in a personal relationship. It is very difficult to deal with. I'm perceived as a strong person, but that dreaded feeling still lingers when someone is disrespectful to you and puts you down. Even if I try to sympathize with mean people who bully me, it seems to make me more of a target since I seem vunerable. Bullies likely feel bad about themselves for various reasons and use bullying as a way to make themselves feel better. People say to stand up to bullies and to not let them treat you a certain way, but it's hard when you have to work with these people or even have them in your lives as family members. The only way to persevere in these circomstances is to have high self esteem so that the bullies don't affect you I suppose.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterToronto
It doesn't get better! You might not be verbally and physically abused as a gay adult, but you are passed over for promotions and raises, you don't get the choice jobs or assignments, and you are still made to feel as an outsider.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterGeoff
Hi,My name is Ryan Annunziello and I just wanted to say, I disagree with some of the posts about bullying. I am finding that, it isn't getting easier, atleast not in my case! I have been bullied at work, whenever I have just started a new job and my situation may be very different then most! For me, it has to do with a more personal matter, that alot of people are embarrassed to talk about! Body Odors! For me, this happened, back in January of 2006 and eversince that time, I have had to deal with this Fecal Body Odor for 4 yrs! Yes, that's right 4 yrs! It has been extremely frustrating, as over a period of 4 yrs, I have been to various doctors for help and none of them, can help me at all! My family and friends accept me for this undiagnosed condition I have, which I am glad, but it doesn't help me, when I have to go out into the world and hear comments daily, like: "eww, it stinks like shit, or who crapped their pants?", etc, etc when I clearly know, that I have perfect hygiene! This is the most frustrating thing for me I find!!! Keep in mind, as I was saying before, numberous doctors in a period of 4 yrs have examined me, to make sure everything's fine, but when you have a personal problem as big as this, you will do anything you have to, just to feel normal again!!! This problem, greatly affects a person's self esteem, self confidence and dignity. That is why, I can defintely relate to all those out there, who may struggle with something called Anal Incontience! These people, are the one's, I can relate to the most, even though my doctors said everything in my body has good tone, it's nevertheless frustrating, when you're still struggling with a very, personal problem!! Sorry for being blunt and graphic, but I needed to say one thing: For those who have this Body Odor(Fecal Body Odor) condition, know that you are not alone and I can empathize and sympathize with all of you!! Hopefully, we can find a cure someday, so that we are accepted by people in society again!!! Stay strong everyone, who has this condition!!
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRyan Annunziello
I have a older teen that keeps getting bullied, it's to the point now were she missed over two weeks of school do to the stress of it all. ( She got her self sick because of it). I am not a believer in bullying nor do I think any one should put up with it. I am a ferm believer in punishment and I do think that the schools need to address this issue with suspention for about 2-3 months with no home work. Let the bullies tell there parents why they are suspended and are flunking out of school. Teach the school kids that if there is bullying at school you may flunk a grade to learn a lesson.....and well with the cyber bullying and public bullying cops can all ways arrest the kids that are doing it, throw there butts into jail for a while, either way teach them that the public is not going to put up with it anymore....to many kids and parents have gotten hurt by this crap in many different ways and it's only the public, with the cops and schools involved that can make a difference in this cruel world. There is no reason why it has to continue, time to smarten up.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterPam Geworsky
I am glad something like this is being put together, and I hope it really helps send a message to those facing this kind of discrimination that there is support out there! But I also have to agree in part with Ron (comment posted above). I definitely feel for the gay men and women that are being bullied, it's terrible and the people doing the bulling are incredibly closed-minded and petty! But I also hope that people remember that bullying can happen to ANYONE. No one demographic is singled out, and anyone that is dealing with it needs the same support and encouragement.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTam
I am very against the work bully for it referse to an animal. I prever the word assault for that is what these people do. They assault you for you are weak or gay or fat or skinny or have frickles etc../ I say to everyone that are being assaulted either at school or at work that they should remind this person that there are laws against it and that they could be charge and I would proceed to do just that. For the child that is being assaulted he should report it to the principal of his school or his parents and they should proceed to have this other child charged. I realize that it is taking the high road and may be going to the extreme but it is a way of getting the message across to any other assaulters that it is not right. I also realize that when you are in a job that it is not an easy thing to do, but if you do nothing about it then it will continue. By taking a stand you are helping not only yourself but stopping other from being assaulted or even helping the aggressor to learn that his ways are not acceptable. I hope that all of you who are being assaulted will find courage to help put an end to this by doing the right thing. Verbal or physical abuse is still an abuse and it should be reported.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterdeceive
Bullying doesn't just happen to gay people or to kids. I have been working in a very mean environment since starting my new job last year. I work with so-called adult professionals (nurses, no less!) who like to be incredibly mean and rude. They will deliberately do things to upset other staff and then laugh about it. They are two-faced, bullying, and vindictive. I have never worked in such a horrible, toxic environment. I can't wait to leave.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSarah
I am a victim of workplace bullying and have spent a lot of time researching this subject. I would like to point out that not everyone who is victimized is weak. In many cases this has no bearing on the situation at all. There are many reasons why people bully and they range from jealousy, prejudice, sexual preferance, to the person just being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Statistics tell us that one in six people are bullied in the workplace and generally don't even realize it until they do some research. Certain work environments are more conducive to bullying and unfortunately this is where the serial bullies thrive. These individuals are usually not content to bully alone. They will often recruit others to join the band wagon.this is often referred to as mobbing. This isn't all that difficult because these bullies are masters at their craft. They almost always have a Jekyll and Hyde personality. As a rule, if they realize they've been exposed by the victim they almost always step up their attack. The bully is so adept that in many cases the victim ends up blowing up and then ends up being disciplined. Unfortunately the statistics tell us that only 9% of these bullies are ever dealt with. Most of the victims quit, transfer or unfortunately are fired. I believe that this is primarily because of the lack of education in this area. This lack of knowledge exists all the way up the ladder and includes Human Resources. Even mental health workers lack training in this area. This leaves the victim, who is already suffering from stress, feeling isolated, embarassed, helpless and hopeless. We may be adults but it doesn't make it any easier. It can negatively impact a persons personality and mental health. The reality is that there needs to be a lot more study and awareness done in this field.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKelly
Respect is a word that has been thrown away today it seems. Where has respect gone. I believe that it is the Parenting responsibility to teach our children that we have to learn to respect others. And it's also Parents responsibility to help children to learn that it's okay to be different and it's okay to have a voice. Many people who are bullies are people who are hurting inside from some reason or another that they haven't been able to deal with and when and until they have dealt with their issues they will always be a bully. It could be they are hurting from the loss of a parent through divorce or death and haven't gotten the emotional support to deal with their pain. So they become angry but angry really is fear turned inward. It could also be a person who was sexually abused and have not been able to share that terrible pain with someone they trust so again their dealing with pain and anger but mostly fear. Fear that they are the bad ones. Turning a blind eye to the bully and just saying he's bad doesn't help. Bullies are crying for help also. Something is going wrong in their world and they are reaching out the only way they know how. It is sad that innocent children are being picked on by bullies but in most cases that bully is torn up inside waiting for someone to make them feel like they are ok...We have to teach our children to be empathic to others and one way schools are helping is through the wonderful program called Roots of Empathy, it should be a required school program starting in the early years and Parents need to get involved in parenting classes and always pay it forward by helping a Parent who is struggling a helping hand because it truly does take a village to raise a child. Don't leave it to others, Parents do all you can to love and be there for your child in the most special ways like hugs and stories, kisses and laughter not video games and designer clothes...Really show them how special they are.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterjudy
Does no one recall this happening a few years back in the States... A few teens had enough of the bullying everyday until they finally decided enough was enough and it was time to strike back. It was called COLUMBINE, and it is bound to happen again unless these " Bullies" start getting charged with ASSAULT, which is what it is, and the Parents, Schools and Police stop looking the other way. How hard can it be to get evidence of " Bullying" against someone if they are posting it on the Internet , for christs sake? Does no one, including the police, know what the PRINT SCREEN button on the computer is for??????????????? * Click *.. instant evidence, backed up by the sites own servers. Easy as pie. Go directly to jail. Do not pass go. Do not even get the opportunity to hide behind the Young Offenders Act, which in this day and age is an antiquated JOKE.

Too much talking and self-indulgent debate from pseudo-intellectuals with an overly-inflated sense of self-importance, and not enough actual action to solve the problem. Time to shut up and do something about it .A good start would be banning Gang-related attire in schools. By what reasoning does a canadian teenager have the RIGHT to attend school looking like a Los Angeles gang reject? Utter Stupidity. Time for some tough new rules, and if you don't like them, don't let the door hit your ass on the way out.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJimbo
This hits home tremendously for me! Since the start of this school year my 15 year daughter has been bullied and picked on every day believe or not for being pretty and carrying herself with confidence. Bullies pick their targets based on one trait and one trait only - signs of WEAKNESS AND FEAR!!! My daugther started at a new highschool and began getting a lot of attention from the boys in the school, of course the world of Facebook bullying began with awful comments, and name calling. I was caught completey unaware of how mean and and horrible these young girls can be. My daughter made many efforts to fit in and we thought things had settled down over the past month, she joined student council, her grades are all 90's and she seemed happy. Then yesterday we received a call from the school telling us that she was jumped outside and the entire fight was caught on school surveillance cameras.I can completely relate with all the posters - I'm shocked and appalled that in a society that praises and teaches tolerance, acceptance, and peace that our children are being guided into this world of cyber-bullying and physical assault. Parents need to play a more significant role in their childrens lives and keep close watch on things like Facebook and the number of texts their children are sending. Engage your children, trust when they say they are scared or nervous about school and the people there. Schools are put in a bad position as well; typical teenagers talk a lot, gossip, and can be mean to each other, but when things escalate to assault the school needs to reconsider their policies on bullying. Zero tolerance must mean zero tolerance. The girl who assaulted my daughter was suspended for 20 days, but that doesn't stop her from waiting across the street for her. We will wait and watch and hopefully the situation resolves itself but for now. Please parents pay attention to your kids - they could be the bullies or the ones being bullied but if we don't respond and pay attention and REACT TO IT, we contribute to the problem.Hopefully one less child gets hurt if we just pay attention to our kids!"A concerned parent"
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCharlene
I am a 12th grade high school student. I work at a pool and teach kids how to swim. I taught a slightly older group, around the ages of 13-14, and was astonished at the language they used. One kid referred to a fairly difficult drill as 'retarded' and another drill as 'gay'. I told him that I didn't ever want to hear that from him, and he look confused. He was CONFUSED, genuinely CONFUSED, about why I didn't want to hear those words. When I told him they were derogatory terms, he tried JUSTIFYING the use of those words, saying that the only way to say something is 'stupid' or 'bad' is to use those words.It astounds me how little kids know about tolerance. They believe words are merely words. They don't see the negative connotations that are placed on those words and they don't realize that they are helping to further intolerance towards the groups of people those derogatory terms are directed at. I recently went on a summer school trip to Europe and was astonished, even appalled, by the word 'gay' being thrown around willy-nilly.Kids need to learn about tolerance at a young age. We are a society of evolving morals and ethics. In order for our society to progress socially, politically, and even scientifically, children need to be accepting of everyone, regardless of body shape, sexual orientation, skin colour, etc.The "It Gets Better' Project is a great start. I desperately hope that bullying based on sexual orientation as well as body shape and race will be abolished.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSean
I know that bullying in any form is inexcusable, but why are people only focusing on people being bullied because they either are or precieved as homosexual. Anyone can be bullied horrendously. Anyone, whether they are homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, transexual, or simply curious can be bullied. Male and females are bullied. Being 'gay' is not the only reason bullies target specific people, and it does not get better. The mental, emotional, and physical scars caused by bullies and bullying stay with you for life. You do not forget it. Bullying in any form, of any person or group should be stopped, so lets not aim to try and stop the bullying of a specific group, and aim to stop all bullying of all people.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMelissa
Like Kelly, I too have been a victim of workplace bullying. Kelly, you are right, you don't have to be weak or even different... just sometimes you're in the wrong place at the wrong time. I put up with being a victim for over a year, and finally had to get out of that place because it started affecting my health. It's been almost a year now since I left that hostile environment, and I'm still living with the damage it has caused. I'm sure not one of those people who ganged up against me have even a moment's regret for what they did. I have lost my self-esteem, I have been off work for 6 months because of the toll it's taken on my mental health. I am left with these emotional and mental scars, that could be with me forever now. What did I do to deserve it??? I've asked myself that many times, and since I've never had problems before, and even through it all, I still tried to be the helpful, decent, positive person I really am... I can only surmise that I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. Unfortunately for me, the management at my workplace didn't seem to give a rat's ass what was going on... and now they have a legal suit against them because of it. My union is behind me 100% and have taken this upon themselves in an effort to put in place an anti-bullying policy company wide! This is something that I'm willing to help fight for, because if one person is helped and spared what I went through, then it'll be worth it. My job, at least for me, is one I'll be happy to leave behind when this is all over... but it does seem a tad unfair that it's the victim who loses out on the benefits of being with an employer for over 16 years. I'm a grown woman with teenagers, and if I ever found out my kids were the bully, they'd be the ones in a whole mess of trouble. Parents have to be more involved in their kid's lives... we need to know what they're doing. To hell with their privacy... they can have that when they grow up and move out. Our children are turning into monsters and I believe it's because we've given them the right to be. It's our job to make sure they turn into decent people.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterVictim of bullying
Bullying is horrible! I am in senior year and after 15 years I'm still being bullied. I'm at a new school but the bullying here for me has started only because I was so shy while trying to ask a girl for one (now lousy) dance and even though I apologized and was trying to make this girl comfortable around me again, she wouldn't even let me be friends with her and she's friends with the popular people at this school and now no one sits with me in the cafeteria, let alone near me all because they accuse of me of being, whatever they believe.

Sadly my school isn't getting together to make an It Gets Better video. A few students here have agreed to join and encourage the gay community but a lot of students, including the so-called popular people, aren't joining and helping.

Bullying in general and predjudice against gays has to come to an end. I just wish there was a way.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterZain
If U listen to all the comments here... It almost sounds like a child that has been abused sexually... The child usually doesn't say anything because they are scared of the drama that might come from sayin anything and we as adults in a way sometimes feel that way too... Maybe speaking up will get us our job lost... I actually have an incident that happened to me working somewhere recently... Started working at this job and one day I was upset. My boss and I were chatting and he told me "U look like U need a hug". I thought it sounded bizarre but was upset and I guess fell for his caring gesture. So he starts rubbing my back and kissed my neck, I pulled back and sz What's wrong, u okay?" I said "this doesn't feel right to me.." Tried to continue a convo with him w/o feeling weird, then does the guy not ask me to basically go to bed with him... BS!! So I said I think this is inappropriate and left... Is that not bullying sorta or assault.. I didn't really tell anyone cause I had just started the job but I did find out he tries that non-sense with other girls when they start working there.. Seriously ppl, we all need to reflect on ourselves and take a look at how we can change this.. This is a world-wide issue!! .. To be honest with U all tho, I do not think this Issue will ever go away... Ego has taken over, meaning the love of power in ppl has taken over, there is no peace... It is all about feeling superior to others or tryin to feel superior to others and abusing others to get that feeling!! There are wars goin on right now... It is all the love of power that causes these separations for us humans... The need to feel bigger and better than the next person.. abuse is everywhere... Lord do I sound so sinical but it is, it is the truth.... !! It is so sad to think that we go to work and some of us get bullied and then our kids go to school and also get bullied... It's so crazy too because a lot of bullies are bosses I find, not all obviously but a lot... So we use their skills in the workforce of controlling things and give them money, I am def not sayin all bosses are bullies but I find there are a lot that are not nice and talk to U in a very bad way!! Condasending, Patranizing etc kinda ways.. I actually worked with a woman and her daily abuse actually triggered me to have an anxiety attack during work... I am such an advocate of anti-bullying and would love to work in an organization that deals with that.. Going around from school to school to teach it... I wish we could just appreciate one another... Respect one another but I guess that is too much to ask... Respect is gone!!
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJaclyn
I just graduated high school and I'm really glad to have escaped. My school was pretty homosexual friendly, there were quite a few kids out in the open and they seemed like outgoing, happy, and confident individuals. Now for the females, that's a different story. Grade 12 I was only there every other day so I just hung out with my best friend and who she did because I didn't want her to be lonely when I wasn't there. To put it bluntly, not all of them liked me very much. I was able to put all that drama behind me, even a major bitchfest they had about me when I wasn't there, but my friend suffered quite a bit because of them. The desire to be accepted can sometimes outweigh the emotional damage it can cause. The thing that scares me the most about bullying is the attitude a lot of people have. There was a fight at my school, there were around 30 people observing, myself included. It was suppose to be a 1v1 fight, but it got worse and it ended up with 5 girls jumping 1 girl. I was shocked and acted before thinking, resulting in them turning on me. Eventually some guy dragged them off me, but it was a bit before anyone else did anything. I didn't know the girl who got jumped, but I worry sometimes about what would have happened if I hadn't acted. That girl transferred out, and one girl got expelled while the others got suspended, but it's still appalling that 1/30 acted, 2/30 including the guy that helped me... If I have any advice to people going through bullying it's that you can't make people like you, you can't make them accept you, and you can't make them stop bullying you. What you can do is find people who DO like you, DO accept you, and will stand up for you. People envy confidence, so carry that with you wherever you go.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLiz
When i was in the first grade i changed school, in the middle of the year, you can imagine how diffiicult that is! But on my first day there, three girls in my class seemed to have accepted me immediatly, or so i thought. During recess they introduced me to all of their friends and showed me around. The next day i went to school excited to see the new friends i'd made, little did i know it was an act made of plastic. All i remember from the next day is going to sit down next to one of my "new friends" and i think they pushed my desk away [dont remember 100%] and they looked at eachother and high-fived and laughed. My feelings were hurt, but i thought it was just some sort of joke. But it wasn't and it got worse and more people got involved, it went on for the two and a half years i was at that school, then i changed again. Ive been bullied many times after that, but even tough it is very hard to deal with, you get through it, and get over it. And eventually, it gives you self confidence because you know that you can get away from it and that it know longer bothers you.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJessica
After years of dealing with disinterested lawmakers whose recorded discourse is "There is nothing I can do," and media concerned only with professional feminists and their silly stories of a chipped fingernail and gossip girl journalism with "spectacular" headlines such as "I vomited in Paris Hilton's closet," true heroes have been ignored. I would like to pledge to you my support for true heroes. If you have stories about heroes like the one mentioned in the story below, please forward them to me. I believe people like these should have representation in government and written about by the media. If you wish to pledge your support, please contact me.

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November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMelissa Chopp
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMelissa Chopp
OK, you all are talking about bullying? How about adding this new wrinkle? I am in my mid forties, and I get ALOT of bullying from young female upstarts, eager to ram overtop of someone like me, eager to use all the methods privy to them, up the ladders. I am having difficulty getting a job at good ol McD's. These days, I am now hypersensitive and am out the door the instant they start shoving me around and guess what? This leaves me unemployed, with females all around me telling me to be a man about it...like telling a seven foot tall giant to be a man about a four foot woman who is stabbing his ankle with a pen and take it. But I have rights do I not? Or am I glossed over because I am an old fart? Good luck on my part if I were to try to make a case of it whilst getting hired, yes? its curious to see women bellyaching in these days of "equality"...when is enough enough out of you bullying females? And where are the good women? Are they gone? These days newsbits herald how being the b word is better than being nice to a man. Reminds me of the t shirts that advocated throwing stones at males. Is this not bullying, yet highly exciting? or are there double standards in these days of equality? One thing that is equal everywhere is our voice and our right to speak. Of course nice guys should not think of themselves in the race, for that is why they do not finish last. This too is bullying. It gets the nice guys out of the way. The worst part for bullies is to be exposed, they can never handle that. That is why a forum like this is good for survivors. They can see a hope and a way out of the negativity.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterVinny
Yeah, I can equate with this. My foster mom had more than her way with me as a child. Therapy pulled out visions of being underwater freaking out in the bathtub. My only wife was too abusive, too, and now, 20 years later, I am a nice guy with no girlfriend for this whole time. i am too afraid to say yes for fear of more abuse and suffering. Now, women react in anger to me as I do nothing to them. I am nice and polite, and I pay heavily for that now, too. As I close away from you all, I, too, wonder why there are no nice women at all. And yet, here you are in places like this...or are you? After all, my mom rocked my cradle pretty good.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJohn
John and I have something in common: there is nothing us "men" can do, and we get no legal considerations, neither. His mom is a mom, good luck guy! She would get a slap on the wrist at best after the jury stopped laughing. As for me, like I said, like I can charge discrimination in the workplace, where sexual favors were expected to keep my job. its a woman's world, and now that tastes like abuse to say.
November 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterVinny

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