Men Who Do Housework In Hopes Of Sex May Be Disappointed
Men who are doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen in the hopes of getting lucky in the bedroom may be sorely disappointed.
A new study says that men who do some of the "pink" jobs around the house are getting less sex than those who are sticking to the blue category of household chores. The same goes for women who are straying from the female chores into the more male ones.
Researchers in the aptly titled "Egalitarianism, Housework and Frequency of Sex in Marriage" say that men and women may be sticking inadvertently to old "sexual scripts".
They theorize that: "Men or women may, in essence, be turned on (however indirectly) when partners in a marriage do more gender-traditional work."
I don't need my husband to be doing a male chore to be sexy. It's a turn-on watching him manage our house so carefully; I don't care what kind of appliance he is holding -- duster or lawn mower.
A caveat is that the study is based on statistics that are 20 years old. The researchers feel that not much has probably changed in those two decades. I disagree; I think you would be hard-pressed to find young married couples who stick so heavily to pink and blue jobs. Most men know where the vacuum is and where to find it. (I use that example specifically because I don't really know how to use the vacuum.)
In my house our roles are defined, but also fluid. If my husband isn't around, I will do the garbage and take it to the curb, he will make dinner. He also cleans the kitchen every night.
For those of us who share chores across gender lines, it is important to remember that studies have shown that egalitarian couples have happier marriage. So even if there is less sex, I'm guessing it's better.
Do you have pink and blue jobs at home?
Want more chaos? Last year, I had a guest post about a troubling teen situation.