Momdates: Finding That Perfect Someone
Have you ever been on a momdate? Or even more scary, a blind momdate?
If you were lucky enough to have kids at the exact time as all you friends than you maybe have escaped the momdate. But for the rest of us who were on different timelines than our friends, or who moved or who just grew out of our circle -- the momdate may have been the lifeline we needed to a new, and important relationship.
The momdate can grow out of a shared look of exasperation at the music class, or an exchange at the park, or it can be a set-up. My friend Karen, who recently moved to a small town with her kids wrote about her excitement about a blind momdate at CanadianFamily.ca.
She and I were set-up on a momdate (there were no kids there and there was wine so it was technically not too mommyish, I guess it was more of a momblog date) and we have that special something that makes it work but then she left town and is now in need of other moms to discuss the daily ups and downs with.
Going out on a momdate can be stressful -- you have consider your own clothing (you don't want to look like you were trying too hard), consider your kids clothing plus all the other parenting accouterments. You have to pull out your best stories, you best jokes, your biggest issues. Your parenting style (attachment vs scheduling; breast vs bottle; co-sleep vs crib) is up for judgement. And yet, a perfect match doesn't necessarily have to be between people with the exact same opinions or styles -- there is something intangible in it and you know it when you feel it.
In a discussion on Twitter, most everyone agreed that a momdate is more stressful than a dating date. As Sharon DV said, a momdate has less alcohol and more judgement; others agreed that without the flirting and cleavage distractions a momdate absolutely outranks a date on the stress-meter.
Have you ever met a soulmate on a momdate? Which is more stressful - a date or a momdate?