Do You Use the Brangelina Method To Find "Private Time"?
Brad and Angelina tell the kids they are going "off to kiss" to get some (assumingly) naked private time. And, according to Pitt in an interview, the kids respond with an appropriate "Ewwww, gross."
Most parents aren't as forthcoming with their kids. Some kiss openly in front of the kids, others don't even do that. But to tell your kids that you and dad are going to go kiss behind a closed door? I don't think so. And I'm not shy. My husband and I will give each other a good, open-mouth kiss in front of a kid-sized audience once in a while to a chorus of "ewwwws".
You want your kids to know that you and your spouse are in a good relationship (assuming that you are in a good relationship) and you also want them to know that a healthy sex life is part of a good relationship. But I'm not sure that means I want my kids to know the whens and wheres of when I'm participating in that healthy relationship.
I admire Brangelina for getting up to no good (or is it all good?) in the middle of the day and telling the kids about it. At least they aren't falling into the bedtime trap where you wait until you hit the bed and then the fatigue hits and the idea of rousing yourself for activity seems like too much.
Did you know that fatigue is the number one reason why people don't have sex? That's what Ann Pardo, from the Life Management team at Canyon Ranch in Arizona, said in a seminar. She suggested that people try and keep the bedroom for sleeping and another place for sex. That may be fine for Brangelina with their French castle, but for the rest of us the bedroom may be the only place that has the space for horizontal activity.
She also suggested trying different times of day because men can fall asleep right afterwards (no kidding!), but many women stay awake longer.
And to that I say: That is why kids DVDs were invented! Wonder if my kids will ever figure out why we let them watch movies in the middle of Saturday afternoon. We may not be as open as Brad and Angie, but we all have our methods.
How do you find time for some "private time" with your spouse?
Want more chaos? Last year, I wrote about my attempts at trying to get my daughter to stop peeing her pants. (Glad to say it is a rare occurrence now. How'd I do it? Go read the post.)