Should You Have a Third Child?
Why did we have a third child? I get asked that all the time, and I don't really have a good answer. It wasn't an accident and it wasn't because we were trying for a girl after having two boys [though it was a nice bonus]. It was because it felt like we weren't quite done, that there was still room for more -- in our hearts and our home.
I was the one who pushed for a third. I had an intense relationship with my sister growing up; there was a lot of pressure on us to be friends. I wanted something different than my family experience. I thought having three would take the focus off of one sibling relationship and mix it up. My husband comes from a family of three and he wasn't too sure that was good reasoning.
It wasn't. Because there is nothing rational in the decision to have more kids. If you are thinking of having three kids, here are some things you should know: