Have You Ever Been Caught in the Act?
Did you see the episode of Mordern Family last week? When the kids walk in on their parents, Claire and Phil, as Phil says: "having sex"? (Clair's response is: "That's not a euphemism, Phil.")
It was horribly hilarious. Because it is something we parents fear, and something the kid in us fears when it comes to our own parents. I don't think the ick factor ever goes away.
My oldest at the age of 10 still refers to sex as the "thing that can't be named" like Voldermort. I can't imagine the trauma it would give him. Those images once seen, they just can't be erased from the mind. As I am sure some of you who are reading this know.
I read this blog post once by a woman who said that she and her husband tell their kids every Saturday afternoon that she and Dad need some private time and they go upstairs and do it. She figured that it was good for the kids to know that their parents were happy and that sex was a normal part of a happy marriage.
Meg Hickling, author of my favourite sex book: The New Speaking of Sex, also says that it is good for kids to know that sex between parents is normal, though recognizes that it isn't highly desirable for the kids to walk in.
I was luckily spared walking in on my parents and/or their subsequent partners. Nor have my kids walked in on us, (and now that I have tempted fate by writing that down, I should rush and get a lock.) But my friends have not escaped, most of them say their kids didn't even notice but they were mortified. None of them followed up with their kids as Claire and Phil did. Now, that would be awkward.
Did you ever walk in on your parents? Have your kids ever walked in on you? How did you feel? Did you say anything? Most importantly, does your door have a lock?
Want more? Last year I wrote about how my daughter was a mean girl on a playdate.