What is a Perfect Marriage?
I married Mr. Less-Than-Perfect. Actually, that is not true. He is perfect, and that is his biggest fault. It's really very annoying to be married to someone who is so perfect. Essentially, he married Ms. Less-Than-Perfect.
But we stumble along just like everyone else. We used to have date night and weekends away and now we have the occasional fundraiser and parent/teacher interviews as our together time. Romantic isn't it?
My husband has never been a chocolate and flowers kind of guy, but he does unload the dishwasher and clip the kids' nails. And in the day-to-day sludge of family life that is pretty good!
It would be nice if you could improve your marriage in a weekend or if spending more cuddle time would make things better. But we all know it's harder than that. Our marriages are the foundation of our familes but we don't put them first; marriage caretaking falls behind in the list of to-dos, PVR'd shows and sometimes even Twitter.
I don't know what a perfect marriage looks like, having never seen one. I have a wise friend who is on her second marriage say to me wearily one day, "It's the same crap, different guy." The men are all less than perfect, and if you are at all like me, we women are too.