My Parenting Toolbox Was Empty So I Gave Him a Choice
There are a lot of family dinners this week which means an opportunity for overeating and sullen children. Or maybe it's just me. I have a child who hates large family meals that have any kind of religious overtones.
Our family is celebrating Passover this week, and we had two large Seders between my parents and my husband's parents house. A Seder is a feast celebrating the Jews escaping from slavery in Egypt (essentially the story as told in the movie The Ten Commandments), and is preceeded by an hour of ritual prayers and discussions. The before-dinner part can be a bit boring, especially when everyone is hungry.
In the past, my son has been rude and difficult at the Seder, he mutters under his breath and leaves the table abruptly. His father is generally pretty close behind him, sometimes under the guise of disciplining him and sometimes not. They both detest religious holidays because they hate being told what to do. We are not a religious family, the Jewish holidays are really a way to get together and celebrate life as a family and to eat – a lot. They don’t see the part of religious holidays that I like: the connection to history and to others around the world, the celebration of being a family. For them sitting for 45 minutes listening to Hebrew prayers and the Moses story is painful.